By all standards, this woman was doing well. Her husband is very wealthy. Look at the supplies she was able to put together at short notice. She has both male and female servants that catered for her needs. Yet her affections were not set on those things like her husband. Learn to be content with what you have. Don’t ever let what you possess to possess you. Her husband so wrapped up in his wealth, on learning that she took supplies from the house to David and his men, was troubled and shocked that he had a heart attack and died ten days later!
Moderation should be your watchword in everything. While it is okay to look good, to dress well and not shabbily, you shouldn’t overdo it. O Christian woman, do you starve your husband and children just so you could wear what every woman is wearing? The Proverbs 31 woman was not wasting resources. Rather she was investing it. Ananias and Sapphira were thinking of what they would do with the money – perhaps what to buy hence they kept back part of the money with the wife being privy to it. It destroyed them both.
Some supposedly Christian women have put their husbands under stress by insisting they get nicer shoes, nicer wrappers, coercing him to move to a bigger apartment just to keep up with the neighbors even when they can’t afford it. So while you go to sleep at night, he couldn’t sleep because he is thinking of unpaid bills. Some go as far as blackmailing their husbands to make promises before they could get sex. Our sights should go beyond material things. The wisdom we have acquired should help us see with the eyes of faith.
6. Keep being humble. Greatness awaits you.
“Now when Abigail saw David, she dismounted quickly from the donkey, fell on her face before David, and bowed down to the ground… Then she arose, bowed her face to the earth, and said, ‘Here is your maidservant, a servant to wash the feet of the servants of my lord’” (Verses 23, 41).
Her humility must have won the heart of David and that of his men. She didn’t think more highly about herself. For this kind of woman, it is not good for her to be alone or be yoked up with a fool.
When David made his intentions of wanting her for a wife after the death of her husband, she accepted but insisted she wants to serve him. She was willing to not just wash David’s feet but also that of his men. That was the duty of servants! I mean, Abigail has servants herself. When she went to meet David, five of her maidservants went with her. O Christian wife, has it not dawn on you that God opposes the proud but uplifts the humble? And when God lifts you up, you stay lifted. Because she remained humble, she eventually became a queen. When you stay humble, greatness awaits you!
7. Weep no more.
It’s not too late. There is still hope. I’ve labored to show you o Christian wife, the importance of having wisdom. How it supersedes your beauty and how invaluable and indispensable wisdom is. Yet you may ask, with all the understanding that Abigail had, how comes she ended up with a fool as husband? Was she attracted to his foolishness? Did she marry Nabal with hopes of changing him? Did she marry him because of his wealth? These are no easy questions. Perhaps it was an arranged marriage as was the custom back then. We may never know what attracted her to him.
However, there is a lesson here for us. Even the best of us make mistakes sometimes. We are humans. We have our own frailties. But thankfully, in our weakness, God shows up in His strength. Fortunately for Abigail, she ended up marrying David – a man after God’s own heart. A king in the making.
0 Christian wives, have you made the error of marrying a ‘Nabal’? Do you wake up in the middle of the night and realize it was Nabal that is sleeping beside you? Not to worry. There is still hope for you. God can turn your situation around for good. For Abigail, it took the death of her ‘fool’ before she recognizes her prince. Are we then suggesting that your husband should die so you could remarry? Absolutely not! What we can trust God to happen, is that the ‘Nabal’ in your husband to die instead.
For you see, in every Simon, there is a Peter. In every Israel, there is a Jacob. In every David, there is a Nabal. Simon is the one interested in catching fish in the Sea of Galilee while Peter is eager to catch 3000 souls with a single sermon and throw them into God’s kingdom. Jacob is the cheat and liar whose only interest is to take advantage of others while Israel is a prince who has power with God and with men and has prevailed. David is the man of God who loves the presence of God also known as the sweet psalmist of Israel while the Nabal in him is the one that commits adultery and murder.
Dear Christian wife, on your knees you can ask God to perform a spiritual surgery on your husband and let the David in your Nabal be empowered to begin to live a life of royalty. Let the Simon in your husband be tamed so that Peter can burst forth with power and anointing. Let it be said of your Jacob: And Jacob is about to die, but Israel sat up in the bed and strengthened himself!
Don’t give up hope. You are a queen. Hold unto God until you see him transform your Nabal into a king. So weep no more, weep no more, weep no more o Christian wife. For change is coming.