There are times when I know that one more thing added to my daily burden will cause my lighted fuse to EXPLODE! It doesnít have to be anything major. It could be just asking me to make another phone call, when I already know what I need and want to accomplish during that day. Even relationships with others can go terribly wrong and create major stress in your life. Then BOOM! You explode and devastation wrecks havoc all around you and even down to your very soul.
Godís Word says, ďDonít be quick to fly off the handle. Anger boomerangs. You can spot a fool by the lumps on his head.Ē Can you count the number of times that you have let your anger get the better of you and it comes back and hits you square in the face? Here is one of my examples: I have many times tried to have a calm discussion with my adult son. He gets so defensive because he doesnít want to face the truth and he instantly gets angry. The volume in the room escalates until we are both shouting and not accomplishing anything. Iíll tell you I have had enough lumps with this kid, I donít want anymore. The explosion inside of me has exhausted any chance of my getting back on track to do anything I want to do. God in His grace has shown me that instead of giving into Satanís deceiving ways, I STOP, THINK (probably pray), then SPEAK quietly and calmly to my son. It is an amazing tool and we get along much better when we are both calm. In other words, we have extinguished the lighted wick leading to the explosion.
I want you to think about ways to extinguish your lighted wick before it reaches the explosion point. Sometimes it is hard, because there are times when I want to make my point no matter what. I think it is so important, but in reality it isnít. A friend of mine told me something that has helped me many times. She said, ďWill this issue matter in 5 years?Ē Nine times out of ten the answer is no. The next question is then, so why push my way, which again leads to my EXPLOSION! It isnít worth it!
My father, in the heat of the moment, would say, ďSTSĒ which meant Stop, Think, Say. He used to always say, ďIf what you are going to say will help or encourage someone, then go ahead and say or do it. If it will hurt or tear them down; stay silent.Ē This along with Godís Word is your tool to not have an explosion waiting for you around the corner. My goal is to enjoy my life instead of waiting for the next explosion. Will you join me in that commitment?