What would you like to see happen with your life? Did you ever ask yourself that question? This is not a question for only young adults who are starting out in college, careers, or marriage. This question can apply to anyone of any age. It might be setting new goals and dreams, securing a new job, breaking an addiction, dealing with anger issues, getting out of debt, or even dropping an identify with some type of life. Things are possible when we are serious about something and are willing to do whatever is necessary. It has been said that people get motivated to see changes when the consequence of staying where they are is more painful than the difficulty of moving forward.
Let's say, however, that you are relatively happy with your life and things are going well with your career and family, and you are experiencing a good life. What could your life be compared to what it is now? Another way to state it is how can you go from success to a person of significance? Where do you see yourself in a year, or 2 years, or 5 years?
No matter where you are with your life you never have to get complacent about it. Keep moving forward with goals centered around accomplishing things or becoming a better person.
Let's break this down into steps. The first step is to decide what needs to happen for particular changes to take place or for you to take a step forward. Whatever the case may be, you must clearly define what needs to happen. Then you must recognize it when it crosses your path and quickly seize it, because in most cases the door of opportunity does not stay open very long.
While you are waiting for the right moment of opportunity, or better yet, while you have been setting things in motion to make something happen, it is essential to do everything in your control to prepare yourself. Success happens when opportunity and preparedness meet. I have seen this happen in my own life.
Another step that must be taken is dealing with your past. If you desire to stop being an angry person, for example, you must start working on it, utilizing resources and strategies. Be determined to not let negative things from your past block you from moving ahead into your future. Let's say you are going from job to job, never able to hold one very long. You do not know why and no one tells you. You come up with ways to justify it, or cast blame on someone else, but the real reason is you get angry easily at other employees and it adversely impacts your job performance and relationships. The boss has had enough and he or she decides to let you go. Your anger has become a roadblock to success. Before you can expect to move further ahead you will need to deal with that. In this case you decide to enroll in an anger management class.
You must take responsibility for your life; no one else will.
If you want to break a habit or addiction you must stop doing the things or using your time in a way that is keeping you where you are, and start doing things and using your time in a way that will move you forward toward your dream or toward becoming the type of person you desire to be. Years ago I stopped watching a lot of television and replaced it with reading, and not just any books, but books that changed the way I was thinking. I found out later from the counselor I had been seeing, that the books also helped bring me out of depression.
Maybe what you would like to see happen is to get out of debt. This is a case where you need to set a time frame and realistic goals for paying off credit cards and other bills. This will take discipline and determination. You must have a plan, for without a plan don't expect any changes to occur.
After all this has been said it really gets down to how a person thinks. In order to get to where you want to be or see positive changes take place, you must think differently. This may involve going from a negative to a positive thinker. It might mean to stop thinking about your past and dreaming about your future. People generally become the type of person they think about the most. Their lives take the direction of their thoughts. If you don't change the way you think you will probably see your life stay the way it is. To see change, one must not allow his or her thinking to be diluted and dictated by circumstances, but rather one's thinking must rise above their circumstances.
What really reveals how serious you are about changing and making things happen, is how you use your time. Do you read books or watch TV? Do you play with your kids or go out with the guys? That all says something about you and your goals, if you have any. It reveals if you are living life with purpose or just drifting along.
A good way to bring your use of time in line with where you want to go with your life is to plan each day. Get rid of time wasters. After you identify a clear focus, how much of what you are doing each day, aside from your job, is taking you a step closer to seeing the change you desire to see? If you say you want to see positive change in your life but you are spending hours and hours a day watching TV, playing video games, surfing the internet, or checking your cell phone every 15 minutes, you really are just talking. You are not serious about changing.
Every day is like a piece of paper. You can toss it in the trash and waste it, you can draw a picture on it that might brighten up someone's day, or you can write down an idea that might change the entire world. The choice is entirely yours.
With all of what has been said in this article, maybe you already consider yourself successful with a lot of positive changes taking place in your life. That is great! Apply all of this to moving from success to significance. Get a clear focus and vision for your life, something which is much larger than your own personal accomplishments, and that will continue to impact people's lives and make the world a better place, long after you are gone.
You can stay where you are or move into your future. The choice is yours!