We all know what it feels like to be hurt, particularly by people we love and value. The question is, how do you heal these injuries? Wounds donít necessarily get better with time. Sometimes they just get worse.
In medicine, put simply, there are two general types of wounds: superficial and deep. Superficial is skin surface or a little deeper. There is a small injury which time will heal. The deep wounds are the ones that can go down, literally, to the bone. In an environment where there is no light, fresh air or positive outside influence, infections set in and serious complications occur. You get a temperature, feel pain and it doesnít get better unless action is taken. Does that sound like you feel after being the victim of something nasty? Hot under the collar, hurt and left limping?
So how do we heal these injuries so we can move forward?
1. Recognise the offence has taken place.
2. Talk it out with someone you can trust (not the one holding the sword), or journal it out. Say how you feel, why it was unfair etc. and get it out of your system.
3. Pray for the Lord's guidance in how He would have you handle the person and your hurt: don't lash out. Reading your Bible will help.
4. Let go of the infectious emotions you are holding onto: anger, bitterness, resentment, jealousy etc. See them as the destructive forces they are and move on. At this point, if you have journaled out your feelings, you may want to burn that as a ceremonial letting go.
5. Move away from negative people or social media that are reinforcing your pain or adding additional hurts.
6. Do something for yourself that will build your self-esteem back up.
7. Remember to laugh, play with your creative media and find the joy again. The Lord will heal what you can't, but sometimes, you need to patiently wait for His timing. When He can bring all the pieces you will need together, it will happen!
I wish the answer came as simply as taking a pain killer and the problem is solved! As with any hurt, it is not an easy process. However, the more you practice shunning the negative and embracing the positive, the easier it gets. At times we all need some constructive criticism in our lives so we can grow, but never let it become poisonous. Youíre worth more than that!
Copyright Cate Russell-Cole 2012
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