And having come in, the angel said to her, “rejoice highly favored one, the Lord is with you; blessed are you among women.”
1 Peter 3:4
Rather let it be the hidden person of the heart with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.
But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness.
Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.
Who can find a virtuous woman? For her worth is far above rubies.
Let your conduct be without covetousness; for He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”
Jesus answered and said to her, “O woman, great is your faith! Let be to you as you desire.”
Oh, if only we could truly capture the spirit of this evenings message!
We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely do we admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty and gracefulness.
(1 Peter 3:4)
Today we are drastically in need of women who are satisfied with themselves inwardly and reflect a soft and tender peacefulness in their lives. Too often as women we have become loud, aggressive, and masculine in manners. We have left God’s pattern of womanhood, sometimes trying to be better men than men themselves.
How do I define “feminine”? Not by a particular style of dress or interior decorating. “Feminine” can take on a variety of physical appearances. Instead, I see “feminine” as softness, a gentleness and a graciousness.
That’s not to say, that a woman cannot be the president of a corporation, that she cannot be a welder or brick layer, that she cannot be an entrepreneur or landscaper, or just an active participant in the business world. She certainly can, yet a feminine woman will have a softness and graciousness that men simply don’t have. To me, “feminine” also means that a woman has a sense of who she is, apart from what she does. She nurtures a strong spirituality and manifests the fruit of the spirit in every aspect of her life.
Christian character is produced by the Holy Spirit, not by the mere moral discipline of trying to live by law. The indwelling Holy Spirit produces Christian virtues in the believer’s life. “Femininity” also brings to my mind a woman’s deep concern for her husband, children and family. A truly feminine woman understands the “mystique” of being a godly wife and mother.
The “gentle and quiet spirit” which Peter refers to—this tranquility, this sense that a woman is at peace with herself, this ability to share the fruit of the Spirit with people she comes in contact with—results from a woman’s relationship with God. When a woman has this inner peace, she doesn’t feel any need to prove herself to her husband, her co-workers on the job, or to anyone else. Confident in herself and aware of her God-given strengths, she doesn’t feel compelled to use those strengths to control other people. She enjoys an inner contentment that isn’t based on accomplishments, status, authority, power, or other people’s opinions.
As mentioned earlier, this woman of God has learned the value of being as opposed to doing. Too many women today have forgotten how to simply be. They have bought into the lie of doing and have become highly obsessive-compulsive about getting work done. As a result, they are cut off from their feminine feelings and nature.
A woman, who walks closely with her God, However is free from competiveness, aggressiveness, and the need to prove her worth. Yes she may be aggressive and high-energy by temperament or competitive and very capable in the business world, but the fact is that she is affirmed not by other people but by her God.
And her family is blessed.
Such a woman inspires the man of her life to rise to his own greatness, and she supports him unconditionally in his search for fulfillment and achievement.
A woman’s heart should be so lost in God, that a man must seek Him in order to find her. Such femininity also has a real “mystique” about it. Men look to women to bring out their gentler natures and their highest ideals, to inflame their passions, and to motivate them to achievement. Remember ladies in order to be loved, you must first be loveable.
A woman—one closely in tune with God—is indeed worthy of praise as she models godly values and high moral standards. A woman’s gentle and quiet spirit makes her a blessing to the people around her.
Gentleness, patience, and devotion to God—traits which are viewed as components of godly femininity—are qualities which hold society together and provide hope for the future. Women have an incredible responsibility!
History shows that as the woman goes, so goes the family. You give meaning and purpose to a home. You are the heartbeat, pumping vital blood into the family system by setting the spirit and the tone. You help others establish and live by moral standards.
A good woman is proud of herself. She respects herself and others. She is aware of who she is. She neither seeks definition from the person she is with, nor does she expect them to read her mind. She is quite capable of articulating her needs. A good woman has a dash of inspiration, a dabble of endurance. She knows that she will at times; have to inspire others to reach the potential God gave them.
A good woman knows her past, understands her present, and moves toward the future. A good woman knows God. She knows that with God the world is her playground, but without God she will just be played. A good woman does not live in fear of the future because of her past. Instead, she understands that her life experiences are merely lessons, meant to bring her closer to self knowledge and unconditional self love.
Are you fulfilled in your role as a woman, a wife, a mother? Do you have purpose? Fulfillment and the peace it offers don’t come free. You will work and sacrifice as you live out your purpose and find fulfillment as a woman of God, a wife, and a mother.
All you single ladies, “No One Knows the Blues like Lonely Women”.
Single women you are not alone, you are not single; you are in a relationship with God. If God is all you have, you have all you need. God created us for relationships, a relationship with Him and with one another.
Despite how our world is today, I believe a woman can still make her home a place of serenity, a place where her children will rise up and bless her, a place were her family and friends will love and respect her. It starts when she herself discovers and nurtures a serenity that God alone gives. Remember you are the child of the King. See yourself as God sees you!
A butterfly never changes back to a caterpillar. We are God’s beautiful butterflies. We need to be happy in who God made us. You are anointed where God wants you to be. We must present ourselves before the King. God wants us to use our beauty to serve Him. Women pick-up your crown, put it on and wear it proudly!
1. Write several activities that help you feel feminine. Consider a few of these:
• Buy some fresh flowers for your home (Silk flowers will do, too)
• Light a scented candle by the kitchen sink, the nightstand, or the bathtub.
• Get a new hair do or add something new to your makeup.
• Read a love story or poem.
• Pamper yourself with a new bottle of perfume.
• Unclutter your bedroom. Reserve it for sleep and romance (if married).
• Take a warm scented bubble bath.
• Just sit and hold hands with your husband or male friend and think about God’s love, power, and His peace.