Today I was reading about a lady who's child had past on some 4 1/2 years earlier from the time that she wrote her comments about how she felt after the child's death. She was really venting her emotions that she still had fresh in her as if it were the day the child died. I felt very sorry for her because all of this time she has not found any solace in her continued life journey. She has no hope at this point of being comforted, in fact her words sounds as if she does not seek comfort, it seems like she wants to continue in her pain. She has two other children and she wants to continue in her hurt. This is very sad.
I too am in pain of losing my child but I do know that the pain I am feeling is there to draw me closer to where my strength comes from, it is from the Heavenly Father. He gives me the strength to continue on my life's journey. Sometimes when I begin to feel low I listen to inspirational gospel songs and most of all I ask God to help me get through that moment. If we call on Him He is faithful to come to our aid, providing us with his comfort.
A few weeks ago I went to Faith's gravesite (my daughter who passed away) and as I was standing there with tears coming down my face a gentle breeze came rushing front ways towards my body. It continued for many minutes giving me a calm and a familiar peace. It felt as if it were going to wrap around me and hung me! I felt so good. I began to look up instead of focusing on her little grave site where her earthly vessel is lying.
You see, the truth is Faith is not dead, neither is the lady's child who I read about. None of us who believe and serve the Father through Christ Jesus have lost a child on this side has truly lost anything. It is true that we grieve and hurt because they are gone but we can be comforted they are with Him. Heaven is not a dreamland or a place that you should just think it exists so that your thoughts bring you a fuzzy warm feeling inside. It is a real place full of love and comforts that we can never fully attain by being here in our present earthly state.
Even a nonbeliever can be assured that their children are in the Presence of The Lord. The detrimental contrast between the death of a nonbeliever's baby and a believer's baby is this, we as believers will reunite with our babies who have gone on before us. Depending on when we too leave our earthly vessels in relation to when they passed on from their tiny little bodies we will be with these babies, children, or adults. These babies that we cry so desperately for when they have departed from us are comfortable and happy. We can rest assure that as we continue to live for Christ as believers we have truly not lost anything. What we have to do to continue on in our journey with faith is to cry when we have to in order to get the moment's pain all out at that moment because this is part of our cleansing process. When it is over we can ask God to help us with what we just felt or we can ask for his help at that somber moment while we are experiencing it. For those of us who journals we can write out our feelings at that moment. If it hurts too much we can wait until we can stand to pick up a writing utensil and begin the painstaking task of writing out our thoughts. We can pickup His word and read it, finding bible verses associated with His comforting us in times of pain. We can even sing a hymn to cheer us up. My favorite is Mahalia Jackson's 'How I Got Over'. All of these should usher in His sweet presence, giving assurance to the believer that He cares what you are going through. He is truly strong when we are weak. In weakness is how we come to know who we are. This to me is still a mystery but a great relief.
For a nonbeliever who has not come into acceptance of The Father's Salvation through His Son, Jesus Christ, The Lord and Savior, this pain will be uncomforted and truly a great life burden. For you all I beg you to give it to God. Cry out to Him with all of your heart while in your pain and ask Him to save you from your sins. He will answer you. He is there near to you waiting for you to welcome Him into your heart. You cannot and should not deal with this alone. Other people are good to talk to sometime about life's tragedies or disappointments but they cannot save us. We must run to The Lord and not let the enemy come in (Satan) who's only agenda is our pain and suffering, and to steal the very possible last thread of any hope we have left. We must see our babies again one day and the only way to do so is to surrender our lives to The One and Only True Jesus Christ!!
Written By: Nicole Rawls
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Nicole, Grieving is very personal and we grieve in different ways. It is so good to see that you are not allowing your grief to tarnish your blessed relationship with Jesus Christ our Lord. Your courage is commendable and a blessing to all who read this article. If it is any help here are a few verses that some who are grieving find helpful:
"And I heard a voice from heaven saying unto me, Write, Blessed are the dead which die in the Lord from henceforth: Yea, saith the Spirit, that they may rest from their labours; and their works do follow them." (Revelation 14:13)
"But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him." (1 Thessalonians 4: 13-14)
"Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you." (1 Peter 5:7)
"He only is my rock and my salvation: he is my defence; I shall not be moved." (Psalm 62:6)
"And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God. And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away." (Revelation 21:1-4)
"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." (Romans 8:28)
"For thou art my rock and my fortress; therefore for thy name's sake lead me, and guide me." (Psalm 31:3)
Keep trusting God as per Proverbs 3:5-6 and I am confident that God will see you through as he does all his children. God bless you.