If we have not learnt good things from books with respect to making a happy home or have received credible counsels or attended seminars and trainings and learnt a couple of things from peoples' experience about the matter of making the best of our marriages and Homes, it is not a good posture for those intending or already in the journey.
Even if we have read many books about this and have attended many seminars and trainings or received good counsels and had well planned time, resourceful and quality courtship programme, as important as they may be, we should not handle our homes when commenced and thereafter with the mind and consciousness of an expert! it is better to operate from the consciousness and sincerity of a learner. Because there are many firsthand books, counsels, trainings and experience that we may never come across in the print nor will some counselors or trainers have words appropriate in their vocabularies to express in their books, counsels and training. These we will have the privilege of learning in our homes- it is a wonderful school, if motive are correct and pure from the start. More so,each home is very unique.
Although, We should not empower fear; such attitude like this will abhor disaster. But with the confidence of a willing learner, the grace of gleaning lessons, acquiring values and virtues from every bit of experience and situation, will help marriage to have a safe trip even in the face of necessary challenges. The confidence and willingness of a learner at home for both parties are good postures that will lubricate relationship and help them to have understanding and learn wisdom all along the journey, inspite and despite the gravity and simplicity of every situation and circumstance.
There are always subtle points and delicate moments where fissures and fractures are purposely intended by flesh and devil to be introduced into the relationship through our willing and unwilling mistakes, ignorance, negligence, carelessness and prayerlessness. However, with the help of God to those willing to learn in in the flexibility and dynamics of wisdom, they will overturned into opportunities to further re-establish, reinforce and represent the home for fresh inexhaustible grace, mercy and favour.
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