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A Garden Marriage
by Debra Burchett
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A Garden Marriage Genesis 2:23 – 24 NIV This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman, for she was taken out of man. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. This is where marriage begins and is defined. God made both, one for the other. Each has different abilities and strengths. They were a compliment to each other. They worked together to take care of God’s garden and all in it. They also took care of each other. It was good and as it should be. Verse 25 says they were both naked yet they felt no shame with each other. It was not until after they had eaten from the tree in the middle of the garden, that they realized their nakedness. At that time they became ashamed of themselves and their exposure to each other. The couple also became fearful of the same God who loved them and so they tried to hide themselves from him. It works the same way in life to this day. When a man and woman are joined in marriage through love, there is no shame. The man leaves his parents and promises himself to his wife. They join together taking responsibility for each other’s welfare and loving their mate above all others. There is no shame or embarrassment in their innocence and exposing themselves to each other, or to God. Just like Adam and Eve, if one sin enters the union, barriers begin to be built, to hide the sin. When we start hiding things from our marriage partner, we eat of the fruit of sin. Then begins the breakdown of the marriage. We begin to hide just as Adam an Eve hid from God. With a sin in the marriage, there becomes a lack of spiritual, emotional and intellectual intimacy. What does that mean? It means that just as sin separated Adam and Eve from God, it does the same in the marriage. Communication breaks down. The spiritual seeking of God begins to become less, replace by the pursuit of the sin. Slowly the one who brings the sin to the marriage begins pulling away from the relationship. Emotionally, they become angry, with the marriage partner in all things, resentment builds and feelings of oppression begin to set in overwhelming the once glorious feelings of love and the desire to be with that spouse. Then the last and worst is the emotional and intellectual harm to the marriage. The sin entering into the marriage forms a barrier between them by creating a feeling of desire. One starts to believe it’s a better relationship than what they had. Sin breaks the binding of the marriage. Sin conveniences that spouse that love doesn’t exist in the relationship any more and they start creating distance from the other by humiliating actions, absence of physical contact, and the actual act of leaving or in a since hiding from the other. That is what Adam and Eve did by hiding themselves from God and each other. They built a barrier between God and each other. God could not let them stay in the garden this way, but he did not turn from them either. He told them that life would not be easy as it was before they sinned, Instead, they had to earn their way in life, and back to a relationship with God. Yet God made it possible for them. It is the same with a broken relationship. The one who brought sin must remove the sin from the relationship. Then the hurt spouse must be nursed back to a healthy relationship by the one who broke the relationship. Only then can forgiveness and healing begin to return to the marriage. Pride is also part of the sin, and it will strive and be fed by Satans power to stop the relationship from being restored. Satan uses innocent motives to turn us in to paths of temptations that will over whelm our wholeness. We cannot always prevent temptation, but there is always a way of escape. God uses the symbol of marriage to represent his relationship with his people. Marriage was based on the practice of love to each other, not on feelings. The emotions we call love is the desire to choose to be in a relationship of honor, trust and mutual support of each other through everything both good and bad in life. That sharing of the good and bad is what tears down the barriers and brings lives back together, and creates an emotional oneness. Like Adam and Eve, seek out God and confess your transgressions and he will restore your life. My prayer is that if there is trouble in you life, you will give it to God. Let him help you win the battle. I pray that you will be honest with God and yourself to earnestly seek that escape back to the healthy relationship there once was. With God and your spouse, because God will heal what he joined together? Jesus said in Matthew 19: 5 – 6 NIV “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh” so they are no longer two but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” By breaking one relationship you will find that your relationship with God is also broken. You must seek God first before any healing can take place of any form in a relationship.

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