Who Agonizes Over the Life of the Orphaned Adult Child?
I thought about this as I was reading through a chapter in the book, ‘The Power of Praying for Your Adult Children’ by Stormie Omartian
The main focus of the book is to teach a parent on how they can effectively pray for their adult child as he / she faces the challenges of adulthood. But then, my question is: who prays for the orphaned adult child?
As a parent of adult children, I do not make it a habit of calling for a counselling session with them to find out what their prayer items are. Rather, I observe their lifestyles, listen to their conversations and sensitively watch their relationships with friends and peers. Without being too intrusive, I also try to assess how they are doing in their relationship with God. I listen to them with both my ear and my heart.
What about the orphaned adult, who is kind of alone in the world? Who observes them, and prayerfully calls on the name of the Father on their behalf? In our Shona culture there is a saying about encouraging an orphan to listen in and learn when the parent next door is teaching or rebuking their child. The saying goes to imply that if that parent notices the interest in her parenting by the orphan child, they will extend their parenting towards that child.
The sad thing in today’s world is that many orphaned adult children prefer to keep to themselves; mostly to try and prove to the world that they do not need anybody’s support. How wrong they are! They, like any other adult children need someone to watch over them, listen to them and pray relentlessly for their adult life. Building a wall around themselves will not result in good marriages or good parents. The principle of the Shona belief makes for a better option. When the orphaned adult child attaches themselves to a praying parental neighbour, colleague or relative they will be guaranteed of prayer support. That is my observation.