Marriage is a life-time contract, so do not rush into it!
No matter at what stage you are in single-hood, LET GO AND LET GOD!
Getting married for the first, most probably wrong reason could end you up as the DEVIL’S IN- LAW!
Be assured that he is an evil task master who is a very unkind FATHER-IN-LAW!
The devil orchestrates wrong marriages in the first place, he is very organized and strategically wicked, always on the lookout for divinely ordained unions to scatter before they ever manifest and if they, by chance do, then before they can take root to yield good fruit. Many are on satanic assignments to create discomfort and cause chaos in the lives of men and women in marriage, your(wrongly chosen)spouse could be the one-planted in your life to derail your destined purpose or/ and a member(s) of your / your spouse’s family, supposed friends, colleagues, neighbours etc... A MAN’S FOES ARE THOSE OF HIS OWN HOUSEHOLD...those who know you best, have the power to leak your ‘weakness’ secrets to the ENEMY as a tool to be used against you.
From the beginning of creation, God created male and female, for the reason that a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. Whom God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”
Ephesians 5:31…Genesis 2:24…Mark 10:7… Matthew 19:5
18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
…Genesis 2:18, 20-25
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh…Ephesians 5:31
5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? …Matthew 19:5
7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; …Mark 10:7
Many factors cause and contribute to bad marriages
What is worse than HELL fire...? A BAD MARRIAGE of course! (In a way…J!)
Certain men are seen physically to be married but in their minds they are still Bachelors by heart, they are never willing to contribute to the expenses of the home, the woman on her own, though married, struggles through life to organize everything, working hard to ensure that expenses of the home are met and the lives of the children are organized; academically, socially, emotionally, spiritually et al.
Even when these type are forced to share home bills, they always declare even to the children, “tell your mum that I will pay half and she the rest of the bill”, but still wanting to claim authority to dominate and remain, the BOSS!
These type complain whenever to whoever will listen about how, “my wife refuses to give me a MALE CHILD” and all such complaints!
Always disrespectful to the wife, especially before friends, family even strangers, reporting the wife and always inviting ‘mummy’ and ’daddy’ to come and settle rifts and differences in HIS marriage.
Childishness and lack of wisdom is always displayed by this person in “decision” making, thereby he end-ups derailing the ship of destiny of everyone under his ‘leadership’, children included; rivals his wife ALL of the time in everything, thereby not fulfilling his own god-given gifts and purpose as a TRUE HEAD OF A HOME!
Women have their own fair share of blame in a relationship gone sour in marriage, manifesting character that could drive their men to either run away or ‘commit suicide’.
Jezebbel (type) character..she introduced her husband King Ahab to IDOLATORY,was so feared and wicked that she pursued and tried to kill ALL the priests in the land! …1 Kings 16:29-31.
Herodias (type)…Mark 6:16-24
Herodias, the daughter of Aristobulus and Bernice, was first married to her uncle, her father's half-brother, Philip. While living in Rome, they had a daughter named Salome. Herodias later left Philip and married Herod Antipas, Philip's brother, thereby making her the wife of two of her uncles. Herod Antipas was the tetrarch of Galilee during the life of Jesus Christ (see The Herods and Ancient Empires - Rome). John the Baptist, a fearless and righteous servant of God, did not shy away from publicly condemning the incestuous/adulterous behavior of the ruler of the land. For this John was arrested, and at the instigation of Herodias, he was beheaded. The infamous "head of John the Baptist on a platter" was her idea…\
16 But when Herod heard thereof, he said, It is John, whom I beheaded: he is risen from the dead.
17 For Herod himself had sent forth and laid hold upon John, and bound him in prison for Herodias' sake, his brother Philip's wife: for he had married her.
18 For John had said unto Herod, It is not lawful for thee to have thy brother's wife.
19 Therefore Herodias had a quarrel against him, and would have killed him; but she could not:
20 For Herod feared John, knowing that he was a just man and an holy, and observed him; and when he heard him, he did many things, and heard him gladly.
21 And when a convenient day was come, that Herod on his birthday made a supper to his lords, high captains, and chief estates of Galilee;
22 And when the daughter of the said Herodias came in, and danced, and pleased Herod and them that sat with him, the king said unto the damsel, Ask of me whatsoever thou wilt, and I will give it thee.
23 And he sware unto her, Whatsoever thou shalt ask of me, I will give it thee, unto the half of my kingdom.
24 And she went forth, and said unto her mother, What shall I ask? And she said, The head of John the Baptist.
Hagar…she bred seed that persecute the children of God the most high
Michal – daughter of Saul and wife of David
Shelomit - mother of blasphemer Leviticus 24:11
The witch of Endor… witchraft is the power by which some rule over their household, holding the husband in submission and the childen to everlasting bondage even controlling them in their marriages ( that is if they are SET FREE to marry at all!)…1 Samuel 28, (check Deuteronomy 18:9-13)
Queen Athaliah of Hodaviah (type) well schooled in evil doing
Daughter of a King (Israel’s king Ahab) was married to the king of Judah Jehoram, mother of King Ahaziah, Jehoram’s successor.
She murdered many including her own sons to get and sustain power
2 Kings 11:1-16; 2 Chronicles 22:10 – 23:15
After the death of her son King Ahaziah, Athaliah ordered the deaths of all the royal family and then ruled as Queen of Hodaviah. She was put to death by army officers: 2 Kings 11:1-16.
Finally and most important of all, a Christian must be alert, watch and pray in the choice of a LIFE partner, so as not to be in a permanent state of pain and sorrow afterwards because outside individual lapses and irresponsibility are spiritual causes , many are in bondage to ancestral covenants, curses and wrong choices made by their parents.
Those who have already taken the step into unequal yoking or have built on wrong foundations and are unhappy in the union should pray without ceasing for mercy and divine help from above to right every wrong and to save and deliver from the status of being the devil's in-law.