Since same-sex marriage is a reality and is more and more becoming recognized legally, how should the Christian community respond to it? How does a person accept you without condoning what you do? How do we express our intolerance to what we believe is wrong without you thinking we do not love you as individuals? These are tough questions to answer but I am going to attempt to do it.
Here are things to ponder. We should deal with you like anyone else, with love, respect, common courtesy, and politeness. If you are a co-worker you must be treated as an equal. We must not allow ourselves to think less of you. However, we don't have to invite you over for dinner or go out to lunch with you. That would be true of anyone.
Secondly, we can seek to understand you. What went on in your thinking that led you to choose this type of life?
Thirdly, I believe we can demonstrate by our attitudes and actions that we accept you, while at the same time, verbally communicate our disapproval of your alternate sexual persuasion, and the basis of that belief.
Now, I have a question for you, and I believe it is a fair and reasonable one. Why do you insist on having gay pride days and gay parades? Is not that stepping over the boundary of equality into the arena of special recognition?
As Christians we should seek to uphold the moral standards proclaimed in our Holy Bible, otherwise we are no different from the rest of the culture. Our God is a God of love, but also one of purity and holiness. We follow the teachings of Christ and His Word. One of those teachings is the traditional husband-wife relationship. God designed it that way from the beginning. There are many passages in our Bible that teach this.
We should accept you, without condoning what you do. Christ died and rose from the dead for you, just as much as He did for us. John 3:16 says that "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life."
Yes, we believe homosexuality is wrong, but so is uncontrolled anger, bitterness, greed, selfishness, etc. The list could go on and on. It is all sin in God's eyes. However, we as Christians, have often thought of sins in various degrees or have made covert, obvious sins more important. In that we have been wrong! We have erred in thinking that some sins are more "acceptable" than others. It is all the same in the mind of God.
Isn't it worthy to mention, though, if Christians live like, or accept the ways of the rest of the world, we are hypocrites. If we live according to God's moral standards we are labeled self-righteous. We are critized either way.
Some interesting things have come out of a book I read recently and a Christian talk show I watched. Both the author of the book and the talk show guest were professing Christians. The author, who was a practicing homosexual priest, said some people are inclined to be gay, even at a very young age. He found ways to "justify" Romans 1:18-30, a key passage in the New Testament on this topic. The talk show guest, an ex-lesbian, stated she became gay because of abuse by the opposite sex. In contrast to the author, she stated that there is no way getting around the Romans passage.
What is even more interesting is that you folks have come out with your own bible version, the Queen James, that I understand changes the wording of certain passages to bring the writing more into conformity with your beliefs. While some in your community have argued that the Bible makes homosexuality acceptable, coming out with your own version would appear to nullify that thinking, would it not?
In addition to the gay Bible, a former managing editor of the YOUNG GAY AMERICA magazine, in the last several years, became a Christian, and totally renounced his homosexual lifestyle. Something that revealed truth to him was the teaching of Romans 1:27 which states, "Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due." After this, he went to Bible college with a goal of entering fulltime ministry.
It is your choice how you live your life, but we have chosen to believe what we consider to be the inspired truth of the Bible. If you do not believe that way, that is your choice. We, as Christians, should not reject you as individuals loved by God, but nor should you expect us to accept your way of thinking.