Is there such a thing as love at first sight? It might be lusting or liking at first sight. Why do I draw these distinctions? Let's look at each.
Lusting is usually based upon physical beauty or a desire to satisfy one's sexual pleasure.
Liking is being drawn to someone because of his or her personality, character qualities, maybe a nice smile, or some other likeable traits.
Lusting and liking are causes for being attracted to someone based upon outward appearance. You would probably not be attracted to someone of a comely appearance or who had a drab personality.
Also, in both cases you have no idea what that beautiful lady or that handsome hulk is like inside. There is no way to know just from seeing them that there might be some unseen things inside that would make it difficult to love them. Maybe that handsome man has anger issues which will result in him yelling at you or throwing things. That beautiful lady may have a history of affairs with other men.
Love is built over time; it doesn't happen in an instant. You make a decision to love someone no matter what you find out about them later. Love loves, even though that person may have many unlikeable or unlovable traits. It is interesting that Jesus never told us we need to like everyone, but He did exhort us to love all people.
Being attracted to someone is different from loving them. It is important to know the difference between liking and loving. Love at first sight is simply a misnomer because you can't know what a person is really like just from seeing them for the first time. Is this not a reason why many marriages collapse? Some people enter into wedlock without truly knowing the other person, their past, their negative qualities, their addictions, and so on. This is what a dating relationship is for, to determine whether or not you want to commit to loving your potential partner for the rest of your life.
So you see, there is no such thing as love at first sight.
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