I am learning so much in my 50’s, namely, how to mind my own business. It is one of the lessons you had to review repetitively with me. I love that this lesson is from your Holy Word. 1 Thessalonians 4:11 – “Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you.”
You heard me plenty of times in early marriage trying to change the husband you so graciously gave me. “Change your appearance. Change your friends. Change your habits. Change your attitude. Change your personality. Change your character. Change your thoughts. Oh heck, why don’t you just change every single thing about yourself and that will make me happy.” It is kind of funny, kind of sad and kind of true, Lord.
It is rather nice of him to stay with me despite my repetitive, requested total makeover of his very being. You made him the way he is for a reason. I am sorry it took me so long to just accept that fact. Okay, I still haven’t accepted him completely if we are going to be totally honest. But you know I am trying Lord.
The best “tool” in my marriage box is working on me versus him. It is much more appealing to be a freelance writer for your glory instead of using my energy to micromanage the poor guy. I do not have time to discover how you fearfully and wonderfully made me (Psalm 139:14) when I am busy remaking him.
When he is my pet project, he doesn’t seem to like it anyway. Generating the next idea for a Faithwriter’s article sure beats generating my husband’s list of inadequacies.
Oh Jesus, thank you so much for your patience in allowing me the time to learn this valuable marriage lesson.
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