Just yesterday my granddaughter lost her friend, which she called her soul mate. The two of them defied the circumstances that ordinary people submit to. They married each other on the beach. They were two of a kind, both intelligent, loving women who framed their life around each other. They were outdoors people; they visited Galapagos Island where they studied about the habitats of turtles. They went to Africa on a safari. They were interested always in being outdoors.
They were interested in animals, especially golden retriever dogs. They had two retrievers, one golden, and one white that they bred and offered for sale.
They were delightful young women; they had many friends, but they could not live in the state where their families resided. So, they moved to another state where they were not denied the right to live as married-to-each other women.
But I am afraid they did not receive the blessing of our Lord and Savior. They did not care. They put God out of their minds so they could live the free-spirit style they wanted. I will admit they seemed happy in what they were doing. However, what they were doing did not fit into the pattern of living intended by God. Consequently, their families had difficulty dealing with them on a spiritual level.
They were not aware of the distress and pain that was caused by their lack of spiritual integrity. I do not mean that they were instigators of trouble, nor did they live in riotous living. They were kind and socially dependable people. They were not liars or scandalous in their dealings with people.
The two of them were always together. They were both teachers; one taught Biology and the other one taught deprived children who had difficulty learning. Both of them added much to society and to the general welfare of adult living.
But, as I see it, they were living in a different world than we were, and because of their unusual living style, others were careful to not offend them. It never seemed to occur to them that we were being offended. Our spiritual values were meaningless to them. Oh, I do not mean that we did not have good times together. We did, but there was always an undercurrent that could not surface. Sometimes we tried, but if we persisted in stating our values, there was an undeniable resistance to our values.
One of the two became sick in January. When she went to the doctor, she found she had to have surgery to remove a growth in her pancreas. It was a large tumor that had already spread to the ducts to her liver. From that time on, she became more and more ill. This is a time when a Christian wants more than ever to be of help in their time of need by offering up prayers for healing. This I did continuously. But all our prayers did not help and finally, the day before Valentine’s Day, she died.
Their home is far away from me. I live in Ohio. So does my daughter, and so does the mother of my granddaughter’s sole mate. But we all live in different cities. Everyone is scattered.
In addition to what I have been telling you, my granddaughter was artificially inseminated with sperm and had been expecting a baby. She was very close to the time of delivery when her soul mate became very ill. The baby was born about a week before Valentine’s Day, so the sick girl did get a chance to see her and hold her.
The mother of the baby has her mother and father with her and they are making arrangements for a memorial for her soul mate this Sunday. In keeping with their outdoor lifestyle, the memorial is going to be in a park in the state where they live, and the deceased girl will be cremated.
As the grandmother of the mother and baby, I feel a deep longing for the salvation of both of these girls. I am hoping that my prayers had an affect on the girl who died and that she learned about Jesus when she lay unconscious on Wednesday night and during the time on Thursday until she died at noon.
I am telling you free-spirited young people about this so that you will understand how deeply your relatives feel about what will happen to you after death. No matter how much you love your children they might not want to hear about the Lord Jesus and how they can have eternal life with Him. They may not believe anything you might have to say, and they may not give you a chance to tell them. The distress we feel and the prayers we say seem to be unnoticed by them. They do not seem to be aware of the trials it brings to the people who love them.
Even now, I still hope that my prayers were answered by Jesus and that my dear friend, while she remained unconscious for many hours, learned about Jesus before she died.
In Proverbs 10:12 we are told: Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all sins. This is what I have done. And these two girls know that I love them. I believe God is telling all of us through this scripture to love everyone, and not to take personal offense if our expression of love toward them or our values are rejected. This is how relatives can live together and enjoy one another’s company. We must leave all judgment to God who loves us and desires that none of us should perish.
Ultimately I place my trust in Him for the welfare of my departed friend.
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Thank you for the courage it must have taken to write such a personal article on a difficult and delicate subject. God bless you with wisdom and discretion as you hold forth the Word of life to those in your sphere of influence. I am believing with you that your granddaughter and baby will someday come to saving faith in the Lord Jesus Christ.