Not who he thinks he is, or wishes he was, or what the neighbors think about him, or any other extraneous evaluation except in the deep down, completely honest condition of his heart, WHO HE REALLY IS before God. It is perhaps a healthy and fruitful pursuit to identify that person clearly and honestly because God does so in no uncertain terms, as the above verse verifies. (Proverbs 23:7)
Like a chameleon, sometimes we are tempted to be the person that is expected of us in certain situations because we think it will serve us well in reaching goals we want to achieve. And for uncertain periods of time this may work, but not in the long run. Be sure that over time, your perfidy will find you out, because who you really are in your heart will exhibit itself clearly to all and sundry.
The most profitable pursuit is to find out who God wants us to be by a close, careful and dedicated study of His Word. And then to take as Gospel Truth what it says and apply it to the way we live our lives: honestly and openly before both God and man. No pretending, game-playing, one way today another tomorrow, but always in pursuit of what Godís Book has said about the condition of the heart. It speaks loudly, clearly and correctly about who you really are. And in the end, thatís all that matters. Play-acting belongs on the stage, not in our lives. God knows exactly how we think in our hearts. So letís find out exactly how He wants us to think by a deep and careful study of His Word, then how we think in our hearts will be who we really are, and the above verse will hold no terrors for us.