(What is wrong with our young people? and other ridiculous questions)
Our Nation is in such a mess. There are so many factions of opinions and not many unified systems of value. We are basically a lost people; there is transformation happening and we are not able to discern where the directions are leading us. Each of us goes in our own direction, so it seems, and "hope" is a antiquated four letter word. One must know what they want before they can "hope," and how can direction be sorted out? Which voice is the right one?
We must all wonder, "How did we get to this place?"
I suggest that a lot of what has happened to us is a result of the world we live in being so filled with informational media, which is not a bad thing, but we don't moderate or modulate the information, rather we fill the empty holes in our psyche with activity. Truly there is information overload. Ideas from many cultures are presented to us and the noise level is high.
We need a true North by which to find our way. A Directional Star that gives us our direction, that points to the home place from which we wish to never stray. We all desire "Home." We are not evangelizing the message of Jesus. We are being told to be quiet about God.
God, the Creator intended that we have relationships and families. It was His idea. He intended that all of us look to Him together, and that He would protect us each one, and that our love for Him would unify us on the Earth. We do have a emptiness in our being that needs to be filled.
We are prone to look for a person to whom we can hitch ourselves and whom we are certain will stand by us, protect us, love us, one with whom we can experience family. Some do find such a person for their lives, and some never do. How tragic to always be looking for the solid rock upon which to stand and to be stable, and yet to always find that what has been selected is nothing more than an illusion, a phantom of our imagination.
I know a lot about this type of searching experience and I have come to call the illusion, this phantom of my imagination upon which I have pinned my hopes, "A god not worthy."
I see many persons, male and female, who are committed to other human beings and whatever the abuse they receive in that relationship is endured, because in their imagination they fabricate excuses for the "god" to whom they have vowed themselves.
These dreamers are even willing to be the one who is doing wrong that causes their god to do such terrible things. "If I only stop this and start that, it will be what I know it is," they tell themselves. Of course their god agrees with them. The one thing those Dreamers cannot allow themselves to admit is that their "god" really does not so much as like them, and to mention nothing of "love them."
As I said, I know about these types of relationships: I lived it for 23 years in what I hoped would be a marriage.
We who are religious in nature, who revere and serve and love the real God, the Creator of all things, as best we know how, find it reprehensible to call anything but God, our god, or a god. There is only ONE God. That is very true; but it is how we act in the fact of our living that tells another story.
The fact is that there are for us other gods, and the sooner we recognize it the sooner we are open to be in a love relationship with the True and One Holy God. Our other god may be a person, place or thing, but we do serve other gods and thereby teach our own children to do likewise.
All relationships are difficult at times but those in which there is abuse, or abandonment, avoidance, malicious demeaning, no respect and infidelity, are not relationships that have any future that is healthy or even Godly.
I truly loved the man I married. I adored him and I saw him as a person he was not. I can now admit that my view of him may have exacerbated the reactions he had toward me. He turned out to be nothing I had thought he was. I was certain that he was a family man but he really would not fully support his family or fully see to the provision of his children.
I thought he was a good Christian man, but when the facts were in he would gladly beat on me if I had any idea other than the one he said I could hold. He required me to work an outside job, but thought I should have no say in how the income was spent.
He spent all his non work time with his brother and a Bluegrass Band and I was never allowed to accompany them. If he was ever home, he was soundly asleep.
You could legitimately ask me why I stayed with him and why I endured all these things, and many more which I have not listed, and I can honestly say to you that he had convinced me that he loved me and that everything he did wrong was because I would not do right; right according to him of course. He was a manipulator for his own purposes.
If I got to the point that I could take no more he became repentant and sweet, until I was settled in again working diligently for my "Dream Man."
I have seen this type of persons everywhere. They are totally engrossed with themselves. They are crafty and controlling.
These people make it their life work to make the Universe revolve around them. They will even sleep in areas that are not designated for sleep so that other persons in the house will be restricted in their activities. They become violent when confronted, or they take the fetal position philosophically, and make you certain that you are being mean to precious them.
Life with these people is damaging to any personal relationship and to the family overall. Children cannot grow healthy in the soil of adult self-centeredness. It demeans their worth, they are silently fearful of physical harm, and angry about being helpless in that which is so sick and depriving and yet called "love," and "home."
There is no real love and no relationship when the one or both parents are nothing more than a tall infant. More than once I have felt it and I have heard others express it, "We all live here together alone."
Why do men or women continue to live in a relationship that really is not? Why do they tell themselves that it is for the children's sake? Why do we as a society, a family, a Church, not demand that parents behave as supporters of their children?
There is a high percentage of homes in which all kinds of physical and sexual abuse occurs. Homes where the children are made to feel they are a burden to their parents and no one is projecting a future for them because there is no parent that is concerned with anything other than themselves.
Many parents are alcoholics or drug addicts serving their unworthy god, depriving the children of necessities; many will buy their cigarettes and make the children do without bread and milk.