Beauty, they say, is in the eye of the beholder. There's a reason why God made woman beautiful - man was the rough draft and the woman is the diamond of creation. OK, so the romantic in me is coming out, but really, the female of the human species is the most beautiful of all God's creation But now, beauty or so it seems, is now consider offensive to women, especially if a man says it, so say the political correct crowd. Truth be known, and this is where the political correct crowd misses it, is that men will do fool-hearty things just to win a woman's approval. And if their beauty is stunning, some countries have gone to war because the queen's beauty (Helen of Troy comes to mind)
OK, that may be the extreme, but when a summer breeze ruffles sun dress in a certain way, we men have been known to drive our cars up flagpoles and walk into walls when a female member of the human speices walk by in a bikini. This is just the way we are wired.
Nevertheless, I'm at an age now, where I can see beauty in many different ways. And if I know someone on an intimate, non sexual way, (have to make the clarifaction) I can start to see that their beauty lies deeper than just their skin. And I'm not alone with this thought either. There are many males out there that feel the same way; that the beauty of a woman lies deeper than just the skin. It's their heart that makes up their beauty that in turns radiates to their outward appearance. I've met some women who have fit this very definition in my life...I married the one that I fell in love with.
And that's the secret, the sooner the young man understands this precept, true beauty lies within the heart, the better off he'll be in showing respect and honor to the fairer sex. But I'm getting ahead of myself.
Personally, I like to think I have a healthy appreciation for women. It's their beauty that intrigues me and their thought process that facsinates me; they truly are a beautiful creation! Imagine the shock when I've heard that paying a woman a compilment is now seen as a sexist term and is meant to demoralize them. Yet, the derogatory euphemisms used in today's vernacular to describe women, which are far more vulger than calling a woman beautiful, is seen to be accepted as the norm. I cite any rap lyrics in reference to women or how the left treats conservative women in general. How silly this hypocrisy is!
The recent bugaboo about beautiful, started when Brent Mushburger said on the air, that the girlfriend of Alabama's quaterback, A J McCarrion was beautiful. She happens to be the current Miss Alabama. Then I heard it said on Sean Hannity's radio show (although I think it was more done tongue in cheek) in reference to Beyonce', while she was singing the national anthem at President Obama's inauguration. Hannity said something along these lines - "She was quite beautiful and I will probably get hate mail saying that..." How sad it is that we've gotten to this point where we can't even recognize beauty in a ugly world, because the ugliness is offended.
However, paying a woman compliment on her beauty or a girl as in the following story, isn't a recent thing; there was a time when I worked at a summer camp as a senior couselor and I was accused of making a sexist remark by the camp's director (my boss) to a little girl of 12 years old.
At camp, we had CIT's (Couselor in training). Mostly they would help out with camp activities or cabin duties, they just wouldn't be responsible for any kids themselves. Kimberly - not her real name - was sitting by herself one moring in the mess hall. I walked up to her and said - "I think I sit next to you, Kimberly. It's not everyday I get to sit next to a beautiful young lady." Then my boss said it - "Jim, that is a sexist comment!" My wit took over and without missing a beat, I turned to Kimberly and - "I'm terribly sorry, if I offended you Kimberly. Please accept my apologies. It's not everyday I get to sit next to an ugly old dog!" What happened next confirm something in me, certain words - sexist, racist, for example are used too much, thus losing their meaning. And whenever they are used, the person using them makes about much sense as a clamoring gong in a nursery of sleeping babies. No sooner than the words left my lips, Kimberly, started to laugh at the audacity of my apology. The kids at the table, that now had gathered there, they started to laugh also.
The only thing I meant to do that morning was to help a little girl feel special and to affirm her beauty. At 12 years old (or there about) a little girl struggles with her identity - am I'm pretty enough? Am I beautiful? Boys go through something similar - am I strong enough? Am I'm smart enough? It's one thing when their parents tell them that, it's quite different when a friend confirms that they are beautiful, that they are strong enough, that they are smart, that they are pretty. That's one of the neat things about camp, is that as a youth worker, you can confirm a kids ability while strengthening their confidence.
My boss made my statement political by her words and I refused to let it go at that. And it's too bad that a lot of people nowadays see things through political eyes and an innocent statement becomes ugly. David Crowder has a song called, "Everything Glorious" the chorus is: "You make everything glorious, You make everything glorious, You make everything glorious, And I am Yours What does that make me?" If God made his creation to be beautiful, then why can't his creation praise him by calling beauty where we see it? How sad the world is, when ugly reigns and beauty is kicked to the curb. Innocense truly is loss then.
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