There are basically two entirely opposite views that Christians take towards dating and marriage. Allow me to grossly over-simplify and caricature them.
Some Christians believe that because God’s in control, there’s a Mr/Miss Right out there somewhere, and all I have to do is wait until he/she turns up, then you’ll live happily ever after with your perfect match.
Others believe that you pretty much have half the world’s single human population to pick from, and that all of them will be ok in some regards, and bad in others. You’d better just accept that marriage is tough, and put lots of effort into it.
Here’s what I think, as a married man: Anna (my wife) was my Miss Right. I know this as an absolute fact, because I married her. God’s in control, so the one he preordained to be my wife is my Miss Right (that’s Mrs Right to you). And I was her Mr Right.
But here’s where it gets complicated. Right up to the point that Anna became my wife, I had no way of knowing whether she was my Miss Right or not. So imagine with me that instead of meeting Anna I’d met someone else and married them…would I have missed out on my Miss Right? Simple answer: no, because she wouldn’t be my wife.
Conclusion for single people who want to get married but haven’t met Mr/Miss Right yet: Stop waiting around! You’ll end up being disillusioned if you think God will simply drop a happily-ever-after marriage into your lap.
Conclusion for married people: Your spouse is the one God preordained for you, so we should acknowledge that happily ever after isn’t a fairy tale, we’re already there…but that needs effort from both husband and wife.
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You are correct that Mr. or Miss Right is not normally going to fall into a person's lap. You are also correct that no matter who one marries, a lot of work and application of things that make for a good marriage will be required. There are a lot of frustrated Christians waiting for the right person to come along. At the same time, 40 percent of even Christian marriages are ending in divorce. This just goes to show, that even among Christians, successful marriages don't just happen.
This is an interesting piece. I'm not sure if everyone will agree with you, but then that's not really the point. As writers we write what God places on our hearts and hope it will touch people or to make them think and decide what they believe.
I noticed a few little things you may want to check out. In the beginning you switch from writing in the first person (I) to second (you)
I also noticed some punctuation errors like no period after Mr. And Mrs. Also the he/she is a bit confusing. If you are writing in the first person, your future spouse would be she. Personally, I think using I instead of you changes the tone of the article, making it feel more like a testimony y. However, the second person can often come off as preachy or sanctimonious.
Overall, you did a nice job with this piece. Your message is clear and gets right to the point. Nice job.