As a child, we never would ever think of the joys and sorrows we would experience in life. When we are young the smallest things, seem so big. Your dad voice is louder, your momís love is endless, and you are full of energy and full of life. The smallest of things get you full of enthusiasm. We need to view the world from the eyes of child. Most young children are happy just as they are, with what they have, they are not worried about how many toys they have or if there cloths cost a thousand dollars or ten dollars. Yes, as young children grow older, they become influenced by what others have and so contention comes into their life. This comes from not being content with what they have but wanting what others have. It also comes from how we raise and train them up. Itís critical we teach them the value of things in place of the price.
The Bible is very clear on what we are to do and how we are to be to our Children, in reality to Gods children.
ďCol 3:21 Fathers, do not provoke your children, so they will not become disheartened.Ē
ďMat 18:1 At that time the disciples came to Jesus saying, ďWho is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?Ē 18:2 He called a child, had him stand among them, 18:3 and said, ďI tell you the truth, unless you turn around and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven! 18:4 Whoever then humbles himself like this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. 18:5 And whoever welcomes a childlike this in my name welcomes me.
ďMat 18:6 ďBut if anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a huge millstone hung around his neck and to be drowned in the open sea. 18:7 Woe to the world because of stumbling blocks! It is necessary that stumbling blocks come, but woe to the person through whom they come. 18:8 If your hand or your foot causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life crippled or lame than to have two hands or two feet and be thrown into eternal fire.18:9 And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter into life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into fiery hell.Ē
WOW, cause a little one who believes in Christ to sin we are better off to have a millstone around our neck and drowned in the open sea. Thatís as clear as clear gets. We must rise up our children from day one, remembering our children are on loan to us from God. Children are Godís precious gifts to us. They belong to God and he puts them in our care to be nurtured. They need to be fed and clothed, loved and cherished and taught about God. While teaching them they also need to come to Christ on their own. You cannot force a child to love God. It would be the same as if God were to force us to love Him. Itís an awesome, but wonderful responsibility. In the process of this nurturing, we bond with them so tightly we sometimes forget that they really aren't our Children, but Gods on loan to us.
(John 16:21) A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come; but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world.
(Psalm 127:3) Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him.
It is so important to be a liver of the Word in place of just a learner, or a listener of the Word. Our Children will remember more on how we lived our life, in place on how we talk about how we should live our life. Live by example and they will remember this, and fall back on this. They will remember us more by our actions towards other and towards them. They will not remember how we said to live but rather how we lived. We canít expect them to live a Godly life if we ourselves are not living as an example. To live as a good Godly example is what and how God wants us, and our Children to live.
Prov. 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he (they are) is old he will not depart from it.
When we do not live as an example, then this can follow us through our lives, not content, not happy, always looking towards someone else and wishing we had their looks, their talents, that other persons car, and so on. Instead we have to understand that God made each person as a masterpiece in His eyes. We are each equipped with everything we need to glorify God. If we all focus on running our own race and using the talents to cross the finish line God will continue to bless us. Donít try to run someone elseís race, but run your own, and stay on your path, the path that God has already created for you.
(1 Corinthians 9:24) ďDo you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. 25 Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. 26 Therefore I do not run like someone running aimlessly; I do not fight like a boxer beating the air. 27 No, I strike a blow to my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.Ē
Children are born without hatred and discontent. We have all started off in life filled with love. ďProbably the greatest harm done by vast wealth is the harm that we of moderate means do ourselves when we let the vices of envy and hatred enter deep into our own natures.
Its how we teach our children and how we live that will guide them in their life. Look back in your own life, if youíre an adult. Have you caught yourself saying what your dad or mom once said. Regardless if thatís a good thing or a bad thing, itís still the facts, as a Mother or Father youíre going to place an imprint in your childís life. Letís not pack bags of guilt, of pain, of troubles into their life bags that they will have to carry through life. Believe me most will carry the heavy bags for the rest of their life. Letís give them bags to carry and the bags need to be filled with Confidence, Love and the knowledge of the Love of God, so they truly know that through Godís Grace they can do all things.
A Child is a gift from God, most canít understand this until they have a child themselves. I remember each birth and crying out to God for blessing me with a beautiful child made in His image. One of many things I have learned from being a farther, is we can all learn from a child because of their purity. I was one told that if a 3 year old calls you ugly, or mean, chances are you are just that. In there young eyes youíre an ugly or mean person. They are not filtering their thoughts. They are saying it as they see it. Open and pure! If you have ever coached a childrenís sports team you know you have some kids that want to be there, some that their parents want them there, and some that are just trying something new and they donít know if they will like it or not. As fathers and mothers we are not just a parent we are our childís life coach. They are going to want to try new things, be someone that is different than what you may have planned for them. We need to be energetic about whatever it is they want to try as long as itís positive.
Our goal is to raise them in a way that they can leave the nest and be able to fly into the real world with their heads held high, soaring above the clouds. We need to remember we canít just kick them out of the nest without first teaching them how to fly. We need to be able to catch them before they hit the ground. As taxing it may be to be a parent, remember, everyday itís a gift with awesome responsibility. Your children are counting on you, your children need you even when they say they donít. We are all children of God, His love is endless towards us. We are called to be a reflection of Gods light, letís first start with our own home and work outward into the world.
The story of an eagles first flight to its last days
ďWhen ready to lay eggs, the female and male eagle identify a place very high on a cliff where no predators can reach. The male flies to earth and picks thorns and lays them on the crevice of the cliff, then flies to earth again to collect twigs which he lays in the intended nest. He flies back to earth and picks thorns laying them on top of the twigs. He flies back to earth and picks soft grass to cover the thorns. When this first layering is complete the male eagle runs back to earth and picks more thorns, lays them on the nest; runs back to get grass it on top of the thorns, then plucks his feathers to complete the nest. The thorns on the outside of the nest protect it from possible intruders. Both male and female eagles participate in raising the eagle family. She lays the eggs and protects them; he builds the nest and hunts. During the time of training the young ones to fly, the mother eagle throws the eaglets out of the nest. Because they are scared, they jump into the nest again.
Next, she throws them out and then takes off the soft layers of the nest, leaving the thorns bare when the scared eaglets again jump into the nest, they are pricked by thorns. Shrieking and bleeding they jump out again this time wondering why the mother and father who love them so much are torturing them. Next, mother eagle pushes them off the cliff into the air. As they shriek in fear, father eagle flies out and catches them up on his back before they fall and brings them back to the cliff. This goes on for some time until they start flapping their wings. They get excited at this new found knowledge that they can fly.
The preparation of the nest teaches us to prepare for changes; the preparation for the family teaches us that active participation of both partners leads to success; the being pricked by the thorns tells us that sometimes being too comfortable where we are may result into our not experiencing life, not progressing and not learning at all. The thorns of life come to teach us that we need to grow, get out of the nest and live on. We may not know it but the seemingly comfortable and safe haven may have thorns.
The people who love us do not let us languish in sloth but push us hard to grow and prosper. Even in their seemingly bad actions they have good intentions for us.
When an Eagle grows old, his feathers become weak and cannot take him as fast as he should. When he feels weak and about to die, he retires to a place far away in the rocks. While there, he plucks out every feather on his body until he is completely bare. He stays in this hiding place until he has grown new feathers, then he can come out.
We occasionally need to shed off old habits & items that burden us without adding to our livesĒ
The Job of being a parent does not end once they leave the nest. It ends when God call you home. I hope that even on my death bed I can a few last words of Godly advice.
Be as you are called to be, Live as you are call to live, be the reflection of Gods light you are called to be. Live with Enthusiasm, Love, Compassion and Kindness. Remove any Hatred, Bitterness, and Resentment from your life, itís a cancer and will only bring you down and bring down others around you. If you say you have faith, than have faith. Be grateful in all things, gratitude is honoring God. Never waver, stand firm, donít worry God is there to pick you up if you fall. Live your life as you are call to by preaching Gods word to everyone and only when needed use words. Smile, let the joy of the Lord pour out from you, and let everyone around you wonder how they can you can have joy like this. Be a cheerful giver, not looking to receive anything back, just doing it to bring joy to others. Donít sweat the small stuff, God had a plan for you before you were born. Pray without ceasing, giving thanks in all things first. Remember, God is not a vending machine, we donít put our prayer in and you get out what we want. Sometimes what we want, and what is best for us are two different things. Trust that God knows what is best for you. When you feel the world is against you, remain still and firm in faith.
Trust the Lord, He loves you, and knows you by name!