"You can't stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes."
Alan Alexander Milne (Winnie The Pooh)
When I was clinically depressed I did not want to see anyone. I withdrew and became a recluse. First, it took so much energy to talk and think, second….. well, I did not want anyone to know just how bad off I was getting. I put up a good front. Thankfully, my family and a few good friends knew something was terrible wrong and stepped in by calling or knocking on my door unannounced. My parents saved my life by driving from Arizona to Oregon and insisting I go to their doctor. We NEED people in our lives. God created us to be social beings. We are THE BODY OF CHRIST. We need fellowship, even when we don’t feel like being around people.
Nobody can weather this life on earth alone. We need God to carry us through difficult moments and friends with arms to hug and comfort us. We need others to carry our “back pack” when our burdens are too great. Even Jesus had a circle of friends He invited to the Garden of Gethsemane. He asked them to pray for Him as He cried those tears of blood and anguish. Lazarus and his sisters were also friends with Christ.
Our Savior does not just want us to be servants and distant relatives. WE ARE BROTHERS AND SISTERS WITH CHRIST. We need each other in order to function well. He wants to fellowship with us. He wants us to fellowship with each other. Father God wants to treat us like the adopted children that we are, with love. He wants to give us His undivided attention. We are a spiritual family on earth and in the one to come.
God places the lonely into families. I have experienced this in three different states. I did not know a soul when I moved to Oregon and had no friends when I moved to Colorado Springs last December. However, even when my biological family was/is not available, He leads me to brothers and sisters in the Lord who can fill in the gap of my loneliness and need.
If you are struggling with depression, especially during this holiday season, I feel for your angst and inner turmoil. I admit that I don’t especially want to spend time with one of my relatives this season, but that is where I/you need to lay down my/your anger or unforgiveness and trust God to heal the open wound that we are trying to mend. We do not know what tomorrow has for us and I have learned the hard way to keep short accounts and to let grudges and hurt feelings go by the wayside. I am not saying it is easy by any means, especially if you have been unfairly judged or mistreated. It is simply a matter of what is best for those around us. Will my son miss out on getting to know his relatives because I hold ill feelings towards a family member and want to stay in my neck of the woods? I am hoping that I am loving enough to give my son the gift of family he so richly needs and desires. By getting my eyes off my wounds and my focus on what is best for the ones I love, miracles can happen…. Along with some pretty deep healing.
1 CORINTHIANS 12: 12-27
Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. For we were all baptized by one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free—and we were all given the one Spirit to drink. Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many. Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it. Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it.
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
God sets the lonely in families, he leads forth the prisoners with singing
But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
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