Are you ready to take an honest look at common excuses people use for not changing?
THAT'S THE WAY I WAS RAISED
You are not responsible for how you were raised but you are responsible for how you respond to it. You can make a choice to rise above your past and make your life amount to something significant.
THAT'S JUST THE WAY I AM
Excuse me!? That's just the way you are? Hold on a minute. You were created in the image of God and it is possible to reflect that image in how you live your life.
I DON'T HAVE ENOUGH WILL POWER
That is not the reason. You don't have "want to" power. There are countless people who have quit smoking, quit drinking, quit drugs, stopped being angry, stopped abusing their wives, and whatever. True, they did not do it on their own. They did it with the help of God and other people. You won't experience God's power until you determine to have the will. Once you decide to do something about a problem the mind has a way of coming up with ways to get it done. Besides, when God sees that you are serious about changing, He will step in and orchestrate your circumstances. If you have the will, God's Holy Spirit will give you the power.
There is an attitude of tolerance for some things that should be unacceptable to Christians. There is sometimes, also, no sorrow over sin. God wants his people to live lives of morality, honesty, purity, and integrity.
We too often accept things the way they are because we don't expect God's best for our lives. We settle for less.
GRACE WITHOUT JUDGMENT
There is, in some Christian circles, emphasis upon grace with very little or no talk about judgment. This can lead to professing Christians living any way they want to.
Some people are so focused on changing others that they see no reason for change in themselves.
Low self-esteem has caused many people to believe that they do not deserve anything better than what they have or are going through. See yourself as Christ sees you.
These are dysfunctional behaviors that have become "normal" patterns of behaviors or responses to people or circumstances, passed down to the next generation.
Strongholds are wrong ways of thinking or behaviors that are so engrained in a person's subconscious character that they hold him or her back from changing or moving ahead in life, and the person may not even be aware of what is happening.
When you get beyond these issues that block change you can start believing that change is possible. You must learn, however, to identify what is within your control to change and things only God can change. If you expect God to change what is within your control it might abdicate personal responsibility; if you try to change what only God can do it can lead to much frustration.
The important thing to remember is that God may work on a different time schedule and agenda.
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