She was a beautiful lady inside and out. She was very giving, simply give you what ever she could. She fell in love with a man that promised her the moon. He had such beautiful words and flattered her, that made her feel so special. Now this was a so called man of God and proclaimed to be called into Gods ministry. This minister married this beautiful lady and their lives seemed to be the fairy tale life. From the beginning of their marriage the verbal and physical abuse began and of course everything seemed wonderful, from the outside of course. We really never know what goes on behind closed doors, do we? This went on for years and gradually it got worse. Instead of telling her she was beautiful and a good wife he made her feel ugly and made her feel unworthy and unloved. He brainwashed her and told her that her family and siblings did not love her, kept her away from her father and mother and immediate family. She so longed to be loved and shown some kind of loving emotion , this man had none for her, a cold man that could not show any kind of affection at all. This was how her life was all these years with her husband. He took her away to another country with the promise that there they would have a better life and they could work for God. There he had her cleaning and trying to get this Mission ready for worship. Her health began to break down and her body grew weaker and became very ill, her husband refused to get her to the emergency. His beliefs were, that if you were a Christian then you as a person should not get sick. Now, my understanding, in Gods, time there is one recollection of a physician and I’ll call him Dr. Luke, and of course there were others .I am sure. No woman should have to put up with this kind of life yet there are so many out there that do. GOD said in His word, he that finds a good woman finds a good thing; why can’t these kind of men see this? Why is it that these men feel so insecure that they have to be so controlling and bring down a beautiful woman to where she has no self esteem left? The one special thing this beautiful lady had going for her, she had a praying mother who was always praying for her, she knew in her heart what her daughter was going through. This was the one thing she could do at her age, especially since this so called man of God did not like this mom either. To some he presented himself as a very Godly man and if you did not know any better you could be drawn into his beliefs. I spent a weekend with this beautiful lady in the hospital while she lay there, and as I told her all her family still loved her and always had, I kissed her cheek and asked her the one question I needed to know, please tell me “did he ever hit you?” She responded with a soft voice. “ yes, sometimes he did.” Of course my heart just broke right then, but I held it in, so I could be strong for her , cause I knew that this was the last time I would see her beautiful face. She no longer has any abuse in her life. She is in her heavenly home where everything is so beautiful and God knows she is one of the many beautiful ladies there. To me she was always a beautiful person outside and inside.
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