The numbers are staggering, and are showing little sign of letting up. More and more teenage girls being sent to juvenile hall, reform school, and on to prison. The rising number of teenage girls involved in street gangs--not just as followers--but as leaders. In hallways of many schools, teenage girls are engaging in much of the same behavior detested in teenage boys--cussing, fussing, fighting, and packing guns and knives.
As a matter of fact, the day after I wrote this column, a fifteen year old girl was arrested at a local high school and taken to juvenile hall for being found with a loaded .22 semi-automatic in her purse. A few months after I penned this column, there was another local case of a girl who had been living on the streets for the better part of a year, turning tricks to put cash in her pocket, all because she didn’t like the rules her mother had put on her at home. A few years after I had originally written this column, one teen girl who lived in the Baltimore, MD area was beaten into unconsciousness by a rival teen female--and some of the attacker’s older female relatives--under the guise of ‘protecting’ a perceived relationship with a teenage boy.
I think that you are getting my drift as to the severity of the problem.
For many a year, the feminists and their allies in the mainstream press have been eagerly browbeating us men, telling us what ‘we need to do’ with young men. And, brothers, it took us a while to get the message, but we have done the job.
Well, let me be the first to put the shoe on the other foot, and go public with my words: ‘It’s high time that WOMEN get these TEENAGE GIRLS under control!’ In short, it’s time for women to roll up their sleeves, pull down the hemlines, cover up the over-exposure of flesh, and get back to teaching young women how to become women of quality, rather than someone’s rap video plaything.
ONLY SO MUCH MEN CAN DO:
Brothers, just as it takes a man to teach a boy how to become a man, it takes a woman to teach a girl how to become a woman. The problem in our modern day is that there are far too many women who are more interested in competing with their daughters for the available men that are out in society, rather than being content with the husband that they do have. Can I get an AMEN from the husbands in the house?
Let’s head on down the course a little further. Without proper training from Godly women, young women are heading down a slippery slope. There are many male teachers--young and old--who have been propositioned by girls as young as ten or eleven years old! The favorite question of these young ‘wannabe’ temptresses in many a classroom is not; ‘What’s tonight’s homework assignment,’ but rather; ‘Are you married?’
No wonder there is a shortage of men in the middle and high school teaching ranks. What male teacher wants to be ‘set up’ because of a scorned eleven year old?
But that’s not all. I’ve heard through the ‘underground grapevine’ that, if a teenage boy ‘rejects’ or ‘won’t talk to’ a teenage girl who is interested in him--thanks to our PC society and school environment--the teenage girl will run to the Dean of Students and ACCUSE HIM OF SEXUAL HARRASSMENT! You may think that I am pulling your leg on this one, but trust me--I have already seen it happen in my home city. It may be coming to a city near you--and your son may be the target. Even if you get the culprit to ‘fess up’, your son’s academic record may be in ruins...unless you have the bank to get a lawyer to clean up such a mess.
Brothers, the day has come for us to use the same vigor that we have been demonstrating in working with our young men, to encourage women to get back into the Timothy and Titus molds and training younger women in their duties to God and the family.
How can a ‘Christian’ woman claim to be ‘called’ to ‘preach’, or ‘serve’ as an ordained ‘Pastor’ or ‘Bishop’, yet DENY the foundational truths of the scriptures when it comes to her role as ‘mentor’ to younger women in the faith when it is CLEARLY spelled out in scripture? I expect those women without Christ to be stiff necked and hard headed…but we are seeing a whole LOT of ‘Concrete Trucks’ in church driveways lately.
I’ve got a clue for you, brothers…they are NOT delivering for the church building, but some women WITHIN the church building!
Brothers, there are far too many women who are out of touch with their biblical responsibilities. Sin is an equal opportunity destroyer.
‘HOT’ GRANDMAS AND ‘COLD’ COMMON-SENSE:
Remember when Grandmas used to be in their fifties and sixties? I have noticed that there are women in their mid-thirties who are grandmothers!
And, they are not above hitting the strip to have a little fun. May/December romances are not a thing of the past, nor of social gossip, anymore. Just turn on any TV Talk show, and you can see the host or hostess giving their ‘tips’ on how Granny can ‘shake them hips’.
With the weather turning warmer, the skirts getting shorter, and modesty becoming non-existent; some women--who have come from families that should have taught them better-- have become hot ‘Grandmas’ out there, trying to ‘get their roll on’, just like their daughters--and in some cases, granddaughters!
Like I said brothers, this is not a man problem. This is a woman problem. And, for you sisters who read my column on a regular basis (and show it to your man), this one is for YOU. Woman, teach thy sister! Her life, and the life of your relationship may depend upon it, when she shows up on your doorstep and tries to ruin your relationship.
Now, a word for the women. Sisters, the relationship you could save, by helping teenage girls to become young women of quality, may be your own. You can’t watch another’s house burn, without some hot ashes heading your way. It’s not ‘someone else’s problem’, but YOURS.
WHY WOMEN NEED TO TRAIN WOMEN:
Now, there are some sisters who may be reading this column and wondering: “How is THIS my problem?”
Here are a few questions to answer this question.
*What will YOU do if your son, brother,
or cousin is ‘stalked’ by some ‘free-thinking’ woman who is bound and determined to ‘bed’ him?
*What will YOU do if your father or grandfather is accused of Sexual Harassment by some Lolita who ‘thinks’ they have a crush on them?
*What will YOU do if the sister down the street, or on your job, gets tired of how well your man treats you, and decides that she wants a piece of him because she won’t take the time to get her own ‘act’ together in order that a good man will find her?
Real questions based on real life.
Plus, there is another reason why women must train women.
The biblical mandate.
It is clear, and is found in the New Testament.
It is up to older men to train younger men, and the older women to train younger women. The reason for such an order-setting pattern is simple: there are just some topics which are meant to be shared between women, and some topics meant to be shared between men. In other words; men have been ordained to provide for the home, yet women have been ordained to make a home worthy of provision.
In the Book of Ruth, Naomi--the older woman--take the time to educate, or ‘hip’ Ruth--the younger woman--in the ways of womanhood. Naomi, while disappointed with the initial outcome of her life, because of circumstances, reversals, and downturns, still found the time to put away her crying towel to do what she was created to do; help an unsure, awkward, young girl to become a mature woman who would be a blessing to society, rather than a curse.
In my humble opinion, there are far too many older women in the ‘blaming’ game, rather than getting involved in the ‘training’ game. Our streets are full of young women who know more about Wall Street than how to help the family down her street. As one businessman once told me: ‘We have an abundance of educated fools; men who are smart and won’t provide; women who are smart, and won’t receive.’
Eventually, Naomi trained Ruth to such a point that Ruth went solo, and landed the man of her dreams, Boaz--a mighty man of wealth. Naomi trained Ruth to know the difference between the ‘punks, skunks, and drunks’, and she--the little foreign girl who was hated by the insiders, wound up married to the wealthiest man in town! As a bonus, Ruth and Boaz were firmly imbedded into the bloodline of Jesus Christ--all because Naomi stopped thinking about her past, and reached forward to a better future by helping someone--a young woman--in need!
WOMEN OF OLD WHO WERE BOLD:
When an older woman helps to shape the life of a younger woman, she could impact the destiny of an entire nation of people! Harriet Tubman, Phyllis Wheatley, Sojourner Truth, and other sisters from our past were raised on God and the Church! Their courage inspired dozens, if not hundreds of women, and supported untold dozens of men. When we look at THEIR exploits in history, there is not a modern woman who can hold a candle to them! What modern innovation compares to the Underground Railroad?
Yes, these were real, flesh and blood women. However, when the going got rough, they didn’t ‘opt out’ for a seminar on self-esteem. They remembered how they were ‘raised up’ by other women, and faced the day at hand, working as a team with the men around them!
If only many of the modern women of today had such courage!
But, I digress.
Brothers, we need to encourage our women to get back to the basics. Not in a harsh way, but in a truthful manner. Let us stick with those brothers who need help, but refer our ‘younger sisters’ to those women in our communities who have a track record of sobriety, modesty, and maturity. They exist. They are as close as the Mother’s Board of your local church, or, within the confines of your local home. Quality women--just like quality men--don’t just happen. Someone has taken the time to get involved with them and helped them see that they don’t have to be a statistic, but they can be an inspiration.
The evidence is clear that more and more men are helping the younger brothers.
We are still waiting for women to reach and teach their sisters.
Mike Ramey is the author of ‘The Manhood Line’, a monthly, syndicated column written for men, from a biblical, business, and common-sense perspective. To email, drop a note to firstname.lastname@example.org. (C) 2001, 2004 Mike Ramey/Barnstorm Communications International (11).
Hi Mike. First and foremost, your article was fantastic and should serve as a wake-up call to our sisters in Christ. Our teaching can't very well go far if we do not teach by example. Women MUST be Christlike examples for younger women if we expect them to come out of this awful age intact. I would also like for you to know that I am a 38 year-old Christian grandmother of a 1 year old and 2 month old and I am quite proud of that. It is a blessing. (We should all have our quivers full of them.) I don't believe there is an age limit on being a grandmother... as long as you are an upright grandmother with her skirt where it belongs... covering her up well as an example to her daughters, granddaughters, and sisters in Christ. Other than that particular statement, I must say AMEN to your article. Well spoken!