It is hard to swim without limits. As I see children in a swimming pool, trying to swim without lane lines, I can see children bumping into each other; losing track of the distance between them, a little bit disoriented because of the lack of limits.
Today, they won’t be able to develop all the speed they are capable of reaching. They know that if they do it, they could hurt themselves, so they pause constantly, trying to avoid the stress.
The same is true for your children and mine. In order to feel safe they need limits.
Several years ago psychologists that were trying to find out how limits affected little children set up an experiment in a kindergarten.
The school was surrounded by a long square fence, but the morning of the test as the children came out for recess, they found that the fence was not there. Little by little the kids got together in the middle of the playground because they didn’t know what to do or up to what point they could run. They kept there the whole recess because they were afraid, unsure, stressed.
All children, yes, even your children need limits! They need a clear understanding of what is expected of them, what is acceptable and what is not. It is your job as a parent to set these limits for them.
The Bible says: “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it” (Proverbs 22:6)
Too many children have lost themselves in a world without limits and supervision. Too many teenagers are wasting their lives because of alcoholism, drug addiction and pornography due to a lack of limits.
They are sent away too early, too unprepared, too immature and, to make things worse, without having established some healthy limits during infancy.
In an age in which we like to think of ourselves as “people without limits”, too much damage has been done to a whole generation of young people because of the lack of limits.
Universities are a chaos of profanity and misbehavior because our children have been taught that they can choose to do whatever feels right to them. Yet God has never told us that we are free to do whatever we feel like doing.
He has set limits for us in His Word, and if we love our children, we have to set for ourselves the goal to learn what God’s limits are and then teach them to our children, whether they are 2 or 16, whether they listen or not.
It’s never too late to instill on them the extraordinary, transforming truths of the Word of God. If you haven’t started, do it today and waste no more time. The reward will be grand: happy, confident children and teenagers that make healthy, good decisions for their lives. Productive and responsible sons and daughters who will honor you and your spouse and bring delight to your heart.
Think about it: there is no limit to what God can do for your children!