Grief Problem Solving
One of the hardest things in life to accept is realizing it is almost impossible to help those who refuse to help themselves. You can try to make life easier on them with financial blessings or show them unconditional love, but some people will use others as a fix until they need another high. The moment they are bailed out of a difficult situation, they will travel down the same treacherous path over and over again. If they take a different road, they will likely disregard warning signs and head down another dead end street. It is as if they chart their courses to one destination…trouble. These individuals do not mind drama, do not want advice, and do not want others to complain, however, they usually want to occupy their time and/or resources. We all know people like this and it is difficult to watch them not reach their potential or worse, self-destruct. These encounters are reminiscent of traveling with a GPS system. The individuals are always restarting from where they are now in life and often will plug in new fantasy destinations they may never intend to reach. These destinations may be positive such as becoming financially stable, freeing themselves from addiction, seeking higher education, or striving to be a better person. The key to arrival is to listen to their heart or wisdom of others and stay the course. For the stubborn that refuse to follow directions, they always wind up disappointing themselves at the very least. It is at this point they will either request help or expect it; then the rescuers arrive. They want to chart the wayward person’s destination in hopes of leading them to success. Like a GPS machine they begin “recalculating” a way to get this person out of “rock bottom again”. Unfortunately many times the vicious cycle begins. Instead the rescuer should plot a new course for themselves with a starting point of “tough love” and a destination of “still hope”. As they travel their new route they can still yield to listen, love, and lead "if" asked, but otherwise stay on course. Still praying this person will alter their route, until then learning to let go and enjoy other blessings that are passing by.
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