I love the Lord, for he has heard my voice; He heard my cry for mercy. Because He turned his ear to me, I will call on Him as long as I live.
Psalm 116: 1-2 (NIV)
When I was in my teen years I always felt like the third wheel. I always felt like somebody else’s sidekick. My identity was hidden and I associated myself with others. Most of my friends had girlfriends and I was too shy and too afraid to ask a girl out on a date. My self-confidence was nonexistent at that time. So when I went places with my friends I was the third wheel, feeling very lonely and out of place. I am sure that some reading this can relate to this, it leaves scars and an empty feeling deep down. We wear our smiles, tell our jokes and everyone is laughing but us. I seemed to always be second fiddle, like you gals would say, always the bridesmaid and never the bride.
Since that time I met God. Before that there were some years of alcoholic drinking. I don’t know if this was supposed to help me fit in or just drown out the sorrow. My life was like an old Country and Western song. I don’t know which fits better, “There’s a Tear in my Beer” or “I’m so Lonesome I Could Die. But either one fits.
Psalm 42:1-3 best sums up what happened: “I waited patiently for the Lord; He turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and the mire; He set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God”. Wow, a new song, a new life, a new perception and a new outlook on life. Through a relationship with God I am never alone. First and foremost I have God. I have a wife and I have 2 young men I call my children. I have two step daughters and one has 3 children that call me Grandpa.
In God’s Family there are no third wheels, there are no sidekicks. We are all individuals, identified by our creator and our Savior. We have no time to be third wheels when God is involved, he has work for us, assignments, missions and adventures. We become less self-absorbed and more God absorbed. We begin to see the beauty God has created within us. We begin to see the gifts, talents and ministries, He has assigned. Loneliness and self-pity slip away. A clear purpose emerges. God has put a new song in my mouth, in my heart and on my mind. So if you are lost, alone, lonely and sing my former songs, cry out, God is listening and watching just you. God will turn His mighty head and turn His ear toward to only you. We are important and not a sidekick or a third wheel.
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