"The man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God as He was walking in the garden in the cool of the day and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden. But the Lord called to the man, 'Where are you?'" - Genesis 3:8
This sounds like God’s cue to Adam in the beginning saying in other words that, if anything goes wrong, “I am holding you responsible!” The Bible is very clear and as God is not an author of confusion He does not give commands just for the fun of it and later have a re-think.
Yes, the Lord gave each one from the beginning of creation; man and woman, specific roles to play (Disregard the unholy confusion, total disregard and blasphemy that we all see and experience in today’s world it is part of the strategy and grand plan of our number one enemy , the devil, to confuse and convince man of wrong AS RIGHT), but above all, Man was the one given SPECIFIC instructions – Genesis 2
I once heard a child try to define the role of a father in the home and it was a totally warped and confused view, understanding and mind-set of an individual who is put in charge of the home as its head just like Christ is the head of the church, that child's description was a figure-head who takes orders from grandma, gets home to make a lot of noise barking out orders all the time, hardly ever seen because he seems always never to be there and when he’s there, there is no peace because he makes the children and mummy very unhappy.
A man without a specific role in the home is never really missed when not there for whatever reason.
The picture as it is in today’s “civilized” society it appears, is that, cunningly and trickily the fabric of family life is being gradually eroded, deleting out the role and position of the father, the husband and the head of the home and this is so evident in many societies and system, especially through government policies and collective societal influence in ignorance.
We see from society to society in our ‘civilized’ world, the celebration and institutionalization of sin and iniquity as the NORM and respect for HUMAN RIGHTS!
Blasphemy and outright disregard for the creator of heaven, the earth and all that dwell within it, is commonplace and the standard.
Ideology, philosophy and scientific analysis are centuries old and have twisted the truth o life and living to a point that mankind from country to country practically lives A LIE!
"And when the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her HUSBAND WHO WAS WITH HER AND HE ATE IT." - Genesis 3:6
Thus was Adam CAGED and BOUND for a lifetime of sinful suffering!
As a result centuries old of pain : the continual famine and hunger in many countries, The Spanish Influenza, The black Plague in Europe which claimed so many lives from generation to generation are catastrophes, earhquakes, tonadoes, tsunamis etc.
His destined purpose became thwarted and this led to the collective captivity of mankind
Thank God for the mercy of God that He THREW them out of the garden before they went further to touch the TREE OF LIFE, we all would Have been stuck in this limbo for ETERNITY!!!!!!
Imagine it! It is only for a LIFETIME, yet since the time of the apostles, we continually look forward, expectantly, to eternal peace and JESUS’ RETURN.
The word of God says: Psalm 11:3
IF THE FOUNDATION BE DESTROYED, WHAT SHALL THE RIGHTEOUS DO?The enemy has so confused man that, present day man, in so many instances even seek the woman who will feed and clothe him whilst he lazes around and permanently depends on her for his daily bread and in many instances, children are involved and see an example of a misplaced role of fatherhood in the home.
To get out from under the trap and confusion of the enemy, men must go back to the basics, seek the creator’s face and ask for His help to reclaim their rightful position
A man has been given a very honorable and divine position of authority which must be used with caution and humility otherwise; he may cause serious problems in wielding it the wrong way.
He is without doubt proclaimed as head of the family and provider; he must realize and be ever ready to fulfill this role to the fullest.
UNFORTUNATELY FOR SO LONG, MANY MEN….ESPECIALLY IN THE CHURCH HAVE PROVED very irresponsible and in the same vain capitalized on the Bible passage that enjoins the woman to be ‘ humble’, ‘ suffer long’ and RESPECT her man.
Many behave anyhow and INSIST on somehow response from their spouse!
The devil is a liar and has many ways of cunningly confusing man, since his successful debut in the garden of Eden!
God wants a new generation of men who will begin to walk in the original authority and confidence of the PLAN and BLUUPRINT OF EDEN from before the fall.
God is seeking, seeking a man that is ready to be a true head and Christ-like in his character with a heart of humility, service and repentance like Christ did as he washed the feet of those who were held beneath Him.
God wants men with strength of character
A man who can back up his words with action such that his family, his wife and children and all others around, watch and learn from how he loves truthfully, not just in words (and in some case no words at all) after all there is POWER IN EXAMPLE.
Revival is needed, once a person is brought back to the state that he is supposed to be, it is like the case of one brought back from the dead because he now stands on his feet to bounce back to glorious reunion with his destined purpose.
The great sage and elder states man Pa Obafemi Awolowo during his lifetime was always known to refer to his wife Hannah Idowu Dideolu as “my jewel of inestimable value” , how more can a man place value on his wife and regard her among all people
Abraham did same concerning Sarah such that it was so easy for her to honour and regard him in return that she called him “my lord”.
Nabal can not be regarded in this category though, The Bible describes him as a fool married to a very wise woman named Abigail …..The story is outlined in 1 Samuel 25
Luke 15: 20
And he arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck and kissed him
And He that sent me is with me: the father HATH NOT LEFT ME ALONE; for I do always those things that please Him
“Displaying TRUE love is not just word of mouth neither is it choking the GOODNESS out of a person but, learning to ‘let go’ when the need arises and creating an atmosphere to be ‘who they were destined to be’
I once heard it said that A WOMAN SHOULD BE ABLE TO LOOK TOWARDS HER HUSBAND AND FIND DIRECTION since he is supposed to be like Christ in her life, so that he can be like an illumination in her life but as we see, there is a high percentage of exchange of roles in homes and families, men who willingly or willingly or ignorantly give up their BIRTHRIGHT out of confusion, oppression and bondage, they become individuals who are caricatures of what manhood stands for, these do not know their right from their left hands, still fumbling in the dark themselves, not to talk of being an illumination to the rest of the family (PITY!)
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
You, man wonder why, why your wife nags so much. Maybe it's because you aren’t listening and she's doing everything she can to get your attention!
Why is my wife so bossy? Maybe it's because you're not taking charge.
Why is she so detached? Maybe you have distanced yourself so much for so long from her, that you fail to see it that you have had no time for her.
Like in car racing, if the pace car isn't pacing, then Eve's car starts veering, and sliding, and going too fast or going too slow.
If Adam isn't right, Cain and Abel aren't right either. The kids act out of order all the time (except where God’s grace abides and mercy is shown for the relentless effort of one of the two!), if Dad neglects his leadership in their lives. He's their pace car too. God just made it this way.
If Adam isn't right, the garden isn't right either. There's stress, conflict, confusion, decisions not made if the man who is supposed to be leading isn't doing it.
Some of YOUR frustrations could be as a result of your neglect of your God-given responsibilities to your wife, to your children, or to be the spiritual leader.
Think about it today if you happen to be on Adam's side of the human race.
Throughout the Bible the onus usually falls on the man.
If the cars around you are speeding, and swerving, or crashing, take a good look at the pace car. That's you, man!
Go back to the manufacturer, he who made you for His good purpose…The author and finisher of your faith.
Check out Romans 8:19.
Do you hear the Lord calling you to get back on track …….listen!
“ADAM, ADAM….WHERE ARE YOU?”
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