I have heard many women who were asked to take care of their husbands saying, "Is he sick?" I don't know if the only time a woman should take care of her husband is when he is sick. No wonder then that such women will not fail to inflict' some diseases on their husbands so that they will care for them. Such women will be happier to stay in the hospital for three years "taking care" of their own husbands. To them, that is the best way to "care" for their hubbies. Some of them will be happy if theirs are on the Sick bed at home for a long period to take care of them.
Experience has shown that many women see themselves as objects to be "pampered" and not to take care of their husband. This ought not to be so. "Whatsoever a man (or woman) sows, shall he (she) reap".
For a very long time now, I have always advised couples in dispute to treat each other as "their first borns". What do I mean? The husband must see and care for the wife as his first born daughter. I know how I cared (cares) for my lone daughter, so I am sure of what I am saying. I cared for her to the extent that people around call her, the "wife of her father", Must I not treat my wife like her if not better?
In the same vein, a wife must care for her husband as her "first born son". Thank God that it has worked for all those that I have recommended this capsule. Your first son can do wrong, you will tell him, correct him and give him enough time to improve. You can, by no means, cast him away. A responsible mother does not give up on her "first born son". You will give all that you have to make him what he has been designed by God to become.
For several reasons,you may not want to agree with me but I am sure, it has (and will always) worked. To those who see no reason to try this approach, they never love their biological son. There are women who see their first born sons as enemies, so, I can not be surprised if someone sharply disagree with me. Please read the experience of these two septugenarians:
I was present at a funeral ceremony of an eighty-two year old woman, a christian indeed. She was married to her husband for sixty years. She departed this sinful world twenty-two days to mark her sixtieth year in marriage.
Her ninety-one year old husband has this to say about her, "...Rhoda was my only love, she was my mother, she cares for me as I am her first born. She was my comforter... She was like an umbrella the Lord used to cover me.
Even in death, I still cherish you. It is God our father that can console me. My life is in His hands."
These are words of praises for a wife that did not come from deceitful lips. From the information I gathered before the demise of this Godly woman, the man will always ask for more from the woman of anything he needed, lovingly. More food, more tea, etc as a son to his loving mother.
Can your husband say such about you? Do you greedily demand that he must appreciate your effort? You can know if he appreciates you by lovingly asking a simple question like, "my dear, how is that food? Do you enjoy it a little? Not that you go into nagging seasons.
Never resign! Do not say, " I have done my best!" Your best may not be good enough! Try more. Acquire more knowledge. Let others praise you and not your own mouth. Proverbs 31:28,30 and 31b read,
Her children rise up and call her
Her husband also, and he
Charm is deceitful and beauty is
But a woman who fears the Lord,
she shall be praised.
... And let her own works praise her in the gates.
Henceforth, madam, care for your husband as your first born child. You will be praised at the end. If you are a lover of a peaceful home, you can follow my blogsite, www.peacelink.wordpress.com. Peace can reign supreme in your home if you are ready to pay the price!
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