DRESSING ¡V TO WIN OTHERS TO CHRIST OR TO SEDUCE THEM
This may sound like a harsh way to approach the subject of dressing but I know that when a woman selects what she is going to wear for the day she has a vivid picture of what her day involves. So let us talk about dressing ¡V specifically amongst Christian women. How do you dress for church, for functions, for the workplace, for that job interview, for outdoor leisure, etc, etc? What or who do you have in mind when you put on that dress, those shoes, that perfume and the makeup?
Let us start by looking at the voice of authority ¡V the Word of God. Our mandate for dressing comes from 1 Timothy 2:9¡V10, ¡¥ And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. 10 For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do¡¦. (NLT)
I looked up the word ¡¥modest¡¦ and this is what it implies ¡V dressing that is modest is moderate, unexceptional, reasonable, humble, reserved. To today¡¦s world these words mean one thing ¡V boring! It is the opposite of the skirt that is so short it barely covers the pantie inside, a top that leaves three quarters of the breasts in the open, a pair of jeans or tights that are so tight you can trace all the body features of the person. This is not modest; this is seductive dressing ¡V the kind of dressing that draws attention to oneself!
Our dressing is very important to God. Because it is through how we dress or adorn ourselves that we can win others to Christ. 1 Peter 3:1-4, ¡¥In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over 2 by observing your pure and reverent lives. 3 Don¡¦t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. 4 You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.
Your dressing should be a reflection of who you are inside, like the cover of a book. Before a person makes the decision to buy a book they first look closely at the title, the cover, the author and list of contents before they decide to buy it. Some of us who are older even look at the size of the font, so we will not have to struggle with seeing the print. The fashion world had deceived us into believing that beauty comes from clothing, jewelry, makeup and hair styles. It doesn¡¦t; these are mere accessories. Beauty comes from inside ¡V the beauty of a soul cleansed by the blood of Jesus and is continually being revitalized through dwelling in the presence of God. No amount of fancy clothing and make up can ever bring out this kind of unfading beauty! This is the Psalm 1 person / woman. Her leaves never wither.
So then, how should a Christian woman dress?
You clothe yourself with the Lord Jesus, the Messiah ¡V Romans 13:14
You clothe yourself with the new nature, which is created according to God¡¦s image in righteousness and true holiness ¡V Ephesians 4:24
You clothe yourself with compassion, kindness, humility, meekness and patience ¡V Colossians 3:12
You clothe yourself with love and unity ¡V Colossians 3:14
ƒæ You are an ambassador of Christ ¡V 2 Corinthians 5:20 ¡V so you must represent your King in an appropriate manner. You must dress decently and appropriately. The name of the Lord must not be thrown into disrepute by the way you dress. A couple of years ago I was walking down the street wearing a skirt with a rather revealing side slit. Men driving along the street kept turning their heads and looked at my lovely leg. I kind of liked the feeling of being admired. Then the Holy Spirit spoke to me saying, ¡¥Girl, if you were to approach any of those men with the gospel of Christ would they really listen or would they be more interested in your body?¡¦ That was a turning point in the way I dressed. I stopped drawing the attention of men to myself and became more conscious of them as brothers who needed to be drawn to Christ.
ƒæ You are a letter or a book that others are reading ¡V 2 Corinthians 3:1-3. What are they reading from your dressing? Some women are cheap comic books to be discarded soon after being read, while some are expensive reference books which are to be kept in a good place for future use.
ƒæ You are the bride of Christ; beautifully present yourself as one ¡V Revelation 21:2.
ƒæ You are a princess, royal priesthood, a people belonging to God and called to declare His praises ¡V 1 Peter 2:9.
ƒæ You must not be immoral woman in Proverbs 7 who walks the streets dressed seductively with the intention of luring men to her bedroom of death. Nor should you be like the Great Prostitute of Revelation 17 who dressed up in purple and scarlet clothing and beautiful jewelry made of gold and precious gems and pearl, but with the one aim of drawing the innocent to drink of her immorality.
A warning: Some women are also falling to prey to the spirit of the Incubus ¡V a form of witchcraft whereby men have free sexual intercourse with women in their sleep. The spirit of seduction in the woman can make her oblivious to these evil attacks or even welcome them as dreamy sexual fulfilment. Either way the woman is very much under the influence of satanic oppression. Men also fall prey to the Succubus spirit.
Wikipedia: An incubus (nominal form constructed from the Latin verb, incubo, incubare, or "to lie upon") is a demon in male form who, according to a number of mythological and legendary traditions, lies upon sleepers, especially women, in order to have intercourse with them. Its female counterpart is the succubus. is a female demon appearing in dreams who takes the form of a human woman in order to seduce men, usually through sexual intercourse. Religious tradition holds that repeated intercourse with an incubus or succubus may result in the deterioration of health, or even death.
The following website has some useful resources: http://blessinghouseministries.org/incubusspirits.html
These demons are very much real and their doorway is through a seductive nature and an unusual imbalance of sexual fantasies. A lot of their manifestation comes through pornography, movies and music that are high in sexual stimulation content. If you are dressing seductively and not getting the attention you are craving for, it will lead you to loneliness and depression and the Incubus spirit will only be too happy to offer comfort and ¡¥private¡¦ sex. But what was meant to be a source of satisfaction will only lead to more deprivation and emptiness.
Finally, remember that you are your brother¡¦s keeper. God will hold you accountable for every action you have ever done. Your right to what you prefer to wear should not lead your brother into sin, 1 Corinthians 8:9, ¡¥Be careful, however, that the exercise of your rights does not become a stumbling block to the weak¡¦.
And mothers, teach your daughters to dress modestly while they are still young and when they are older they will remember the way of dressing that honors God.