*** About not taking what my husband says or does to me personally ***
This is a whole new level of taking this attitude.
For me, this is a new level of not taking things personally. Out in the world or with those you interact with only occasionally, it’s fairly easy for me not to take what they say or do personally – as if it’s because of me that there’s a problem.
Usually, in the outside world, what people say or do are not directly pointed in my direction so I can easily not take things personally (i.e. – that they are doing or saying these things directly because of what I did or said). But with my husband, Jerry, whom I see and interact with often, a lot of times the things he does and the comments he makes are pointed directly at me ("You always...; You never...). It’s in these situations that I must try to remember not to take what he says or does personally. Just because he directs his negative words or actions directly toward me doesn’t mean that that’s the truth about who I am as a person. I am who God sees me as & not as Jerry sees me. I should try not to take his words or actions into my heart (ie - take them personally). The only one who should be allowed into my heart is God – because God is the only one who knows how to handle my soft and very fragile heart with gentleness and respect. This is what it means to me to not taking it personally.
Instead, I need to think; “What’s going on with Jerry right now?” and not “What does this say about me?” And I need to respond to his comments or actions with this type of thinking in mind (i.e. – “What’s going on with him right now?”)