The guilt monster will fright and drain the life out of you at any moment, so BEWARE. He appears with a message of clever indictment, leaving his victim with a sense of wrong or being bad-even if that person has committed no act deserving of punishment. How do I know of such a horrid being? I fight this monster all of the time!
I grew up under a performance system to be loved-“if you want my love, you better earn it.” This impression was not always a deliberate message, sometimes it was conveyed in the small things such as: being given the cold shoulder if the offended was displeased. Lack of physical affection for some mistake, or a sense of “being too busy to spend time with me” until I earned my way back into their “good graces.” As a result of this training, I built into my brain an understanding of love that was very perverted-and allowed the guilt monster to take refuge in my heart.
Guilt is a nagging sense of wrong, like a dog continually nipping at your heels all the time. No matter how many times you try to push the dog away; he consistently comes barking again and again. You can endeavor to appease the guilt monster, keep him happy for a bit by meeting his expectations; however if you fail-even one time-he is in your face shaming you and making you feel like dirt. Guilt will and does bleed over into every aspect of your life if you allow it to. It does not matter what tactics you try using to reduce that sense of “unlawful activity,” it will find a way back in, to take you to court.
I believe the best way to handle guilt is by looking at scripture, and allow the loving judge called Jesus say: “you are found not guilty.” Romans 5:16 tells us because of Jesus and his sacrifice for our sins, we stand right with God. Allow this to sink in for a moment: you are found not guilty through the blood of Christ-thus the guilt monster has to leave and has no basis to indict you. He will argue with you for a time period-trying over and over to point out what you have done wrong; however you can always turn to the God who loves you and hear Him say: NOT GUILTY.