PART 1 We are living in a world of confusion and uncertainness. The issues that once attempted to destroy our families and loved ones were matters that could be rectified or at least dealt with in a manner that we could accept and move forward. Today, more and more families are facing a addiction. Our family members and loved ones are being taken from us, leaving us feeling hopeless and fearful. There is no simple solution, and there is no way for us to rectify or even deal with this alone. There is hope for us, if we can be patient and understanding with those fighting with addictions.
First, we must remember that addicts are not out to get us. Though we want to believe our love should be enough, the fact is it's not that simple. As a recovering addict, I can assure you that I loved my family very much but it couldn't compete with the demons that had taken hold of my life. Secondly, it is not a matter of self-control. Once a person is bound by their addiction, self no longer exists. Something else is making decisions for us, driving us to do whatever it takes for the next drink, the next drug. Thirdly, and this is the hardest one for families, treatment is not something you can simply demand, it is something each addict must fully desire, meaning that they cannot stop for anyone but themselves.
Recovery is a spiritual process. The way to full recovery is acceptance that we can no longer manage our own lives, but that a Higher Power can and will. We must let God into our lives, accepting that only then can we fully recover and return to the person we once were.
The suggestions I have offered are what I myself accepted. In doing so, I am now in recovery and have a life that I could never dreamed could be possible. My family and friends are no longer living in fear and sorrow for me. They have found peace and hope, as have I.
I pray that this helps those suffering with addiction can find their own way out, with God.
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