Can you remember your first kiss? Was it secretly stolen behind the barn, or on a dark front porch, that is, before that porch light started flickering off and on by a very concerned parent? Or just maybe you got up the nerve to make the attempt after your very first date with that special someone you had dreamed about for the longest time? Was it as exciting or breathtaking as you had thought or hoped it would be? Before your lips met, was your heart pounding and thumping so loud that you believed you were going to pass out from embarrassment?
What does that first kiss represent between two people that have just started a new relationship? If you are like most people, there was probably several “first” kiss scenarios’ in your life, because not everyone is lucky or fortunate enough to find that special someone the first time around. Is it true that the girl knows from that first kiss whether it will work out between them or not? Possibly, because I have learned over the years to highly respect that “woman intuition” thing!
With warm feelings, and no regrets, I remember my last “first kiss”. I remember it vividly because it was unplanned and it even surprised me, for it was a moment of impulse, a moment in time when it just seemed to be the right thing to do. I assume the lady thought so as well, for she never slapped me or pushed me aside, but instead commented on how soon she hoped to be able to return from school that afternoon, and to be able to focus on the class! Do we know by the response of our lips, our affections, and our body language how things will turn out between us? Maybe a kiss is merely a commitment between the two to pursue and find out if there is any possibility of future romance?
A kiss can be such an intimate connection. I believe it falls into the same realm, the same sphere as lovingly holding hands at any place or time, or sharing a beautiful moment in time, such as a sunset, sunrise, or a simple cup of coffee…together. Two people can make a warm, loving relationship a reality, if they make the decision to, not try, but to do it! In most cases, that first kiss took a lot of courage and desire. So, should not the relationship be formed the same way, with courage and desire, and maybe an added word: commitment? The actual act of the kiss itself is a relatively easy thing to perform, but what about the motive behind it?
In God’s Word, we are shown two examples, one from each side of this word motive. First, we are taught to “Greet one another with a holy kiss.”(Romans 16:16.NKJv.) We are instructed five times in the New Testament to perform this action to like-minded believers, why? I believe that John MacArthur’s note in his study bible, concerning this scripture reference, is possibly what God had in mind. John thinks this act became very precious to new believers because many were often outcasts from their own families because of their faith, and this act of fellowship and care gave them a feeling of spiritual kinship.
Church family is all many of us have left in this world, and a kiss or a loving hug is not too much to ask for to make someone feel connected and loved. We are brothers and sisters together in the family of God, His church, His bride. The dark side of motive has a perfect example in an unexpected insider position. Judas Iscariot, one of the original twelve apostles, left himself open to possession by the devil, leading him to betray the One that loved him the most. He kissed his Master at the garden so as to point out to the soldiers which person was the right one to arrest. The cost of that wicked kiss was 30 pieces of silver, the price of a slave.
I just thought of a third motive behind a kiss, repentance. As Jesus sat at dinner with one of the Pharisees, a woman, a supposed known prostitute, enters the room weeping, and with her tears washes the feet of Jesus while continually kissing them, and anoints them with oil. In a MacArthur note, he believes that her coming took great courage, and reveals the desperation with which she sought forgiveness, and her weeping was an expression of deep repentance. Her actions moved Jesus to the forgiveness of her sins and He told her: “Your faith has saved you. Go in peace”, (Luke 7:50, NKJV.). Her actions, her works did not save her, but her faith in Him did. Her kisses were motivated by a repentant heart. What motivates our kisses?