How can you continuously reassure someone daily, day after day, and hear them acknowledge that they understand what you are saying, yet still will not accept , or hold on to that assurance?
How long do you keep trying before you are considered an intruder, a meddler, an irritant, a thorn in one’s flesh, and it starts to drive them further away instead of closer, causing pain, stress, and a downward spiral on the relationship?
This entity has a name…fear!
This is such a strong and powerful four letter word that has two sides, good and evil. Fear is defined as an alarm to danger, but also as a reverence, or awe towards something or someone. Then there is a third meaning, according to Webster, and that is: “a state of dread, or apprehension, to be frightened of”. A good example could be something normally used everyday by most people, such as, fire. Fire feeds us, keeps us warm, and at times could be for protection, and yet it can also be very destructive in the hands of an arsonist. We should fear or respect fire, because it can burn or destroy our life, but not to the extent that we cannot utilize it for our well being.
I view the evil side of fear as having long sharp talons that sink deep into the psyche and emotions of one’s being. The grasp is such an unconscious, non-physical death-grip that causes one to feel that there is no way out, no end in sight, no relief to be gained, and that this is destined to become a way of life. It can become, very quickly, that third meaning, which is dread, apprehension, fright. An example could be the aftermath of a divorce or the trauma of the loss of a spouse. A divorce can be seen as a release from a destructive lifestyle, and the fear would be to never take another chance at marriage or love. The loss of a spouse could be the fear of retaining a certain lifestyle, or never finding another love as dear as the one lost.
This evil side does not have to be allowed to grow stronger, or even to exist at all, for there is relief! Those that remain friends can continue to cast out lifelines of comfort, concern, and loving desires to help in any way. But your help is only as good as the foundation it is attached to. Our Creator did not create us to live in this kind of fear, but instead a fear described as awe and reverence.
II Timothy 1:7 (KJV.): “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”
Hummm…so if our fear does not come from God, what’s the other source? Charles Stanley gives us a pretty good answer in his book entitled Landmines:
“We struggle with fear because we allow our imaginations to go places that God never intended us to visit. Most of the events that we fear never come true. Our fears are unfounded…Satan is smiling because he knows he has our full attention.”
Fear does not have to control you, just let go and trust in the One that created you for fellowship with Him. Reverence Him by your faith; trust Him for your needs.
“For I the Lord thy God will hold thy right hand, saying unto thee, Fear not; I will help thee.” (Isaiah 41:13 KJV.)