As we stood there, facing the mirrored reflection of our image presented before us through this looking glass, my hands lovingly caress her around her waist, and my chin is softly nestled on her right shoulder; my eyes are staring into this refraction of her beauty, and they connect with my soul to reveal my abundant and abounding love I so willingly bestow upon her. How is it that we both view the same identical sight, yet perceive such different conclusions in our separate minds of distinction? Why is it that the human female seems to always view her image by the preconceived flaws that they believe they possess?
Yet, as I process the very same image from the very same looking glass, from the very same time frame, I draw a very different perception! I perceive the beauty that God contains, for we are created in His image, and I see that very same beauty contained in her reflection. She claims it is only because I am looking through the eyes of love, that love is blind… so be it! Because, it was that very same Creator that gave me the love in my heart, and this capacity and capability to love her and others as we are to love Him. I believe that this lovely lady fears that the perception that I choose, because of this “blind love”, will fade in time and I will no longer feel the same or see that flawless image reflected as we gaze again, together, in future settings.
Alas, time has proven her deductions inaccurate, for it has been over five years of perceiving her as the beauty that has captured and imprisoned my heart, in spite of the human inability to agree on everything between two thinking and discerning personalities. Consider this aspect, that if everyone agreed on everything at all times and situations, would that not be a definition of an artificial life form, a robot? The Creator did not desire robotic love, but instead a discerning and reasoning mind that would, on its own, choose to love, trust, and obey Him. Ahhh… that word trust, if we do not relinquish control and we have fears, then where does trust fit in?
Again, as we gaze together into this looking glass, one views our differences, and the other sees only possibilities. One allows the focus to be on the differences in age, views, beliefs, futures; while the other only sees the challenges and risks that are necessary for two beings to coexist in a harmony of love and passion for each other, and even more important, with the Creator, the One that makes all things possible to those willing to place their trust in Him instead of themselves. That same word trust keeps coming up as a thorn in the flesh, a constant prod to the human ego. This brings to mind a statement made in the book entitled “The Shack”, by William Young. God is speaking to the main character and tells him: “You demand your independence, and now you are angry with the one who loved you enough to give it to you”.
Not a truer statement is made concerning mankind! God gave us independence and control (free will), and yet when things go wrong, when things don’t go as we feel they should, we want to blame the One that loved us enough to allow us the free will in the first place! Gaze again into this looking glass. What does your free will allow you to see? You make the decision as to what your eyes and mind will be allowed to perceive. Will you only focus on “perceived” flaws and risky futures, or trust the One that got you this far in spite of your own interference?
Our imagination can be a very damaging tool without trust in the One that gave us such an awesome ability. Return to “The Shack” again and read the words God used to help Mack understand his situation:
“Mack, do you realize that your imagination of the future,
which is almost always dictated by fear of some kind, rarely, if
ever pictures me there with you? It is your desperate attempt to
get some control over something you can’t. It is impossible for
you to take power over the future because it isn’t even real, nor
will it ever be real. You try and play God, imagining the evil
that you fear becoming reality, and then you try and make
plans and contingencies to avoid what you fear.”
As you face this mirror, this time just close your eyes, visualize in your free will mind what you see. What if you do still see the flaws? What danger do you perceive them to be to you? Look again at that future you are unable to imagine turning out for the good, it can just as easily turn out to the best, for it is a preconceived fear that has never even taken place, and yet, you are paying a price for it now, in the present for a future that does not even exist!
Wow, heavy stuff, yet we bring it on ourselves for the sake of control, for the sake of perceived images of the mind of things we fear “might” happen. But, if we trust the only One that truly knows the future, what peace and relief and comfort we would be allowed to have for ourselves and to share with others, or a special someone; that someone that gazes along with you in that looking glass of illusions and perceptions, and whether positive or negative you are sharing together the same reflection. An unknown author once said, “Growth means change and change involves risk, stepping from the known to the unknown”.
Do you think there may be other circumstances in our lives that could possibly be clouding our judgments and decisions? Sometimes past experiences will get so etched into our very being, to the point that we struggle to understand that future possibilities can be positive and achievable if we are willing to work as hard 0n our personal well-being as we are on our careers and our outward appearance. If God’s concern is what’s on the inside of a person’s heart and not on their outward appearance and works, then maybe that is what we should also be concerned with.
When Solomon wrote the book of Ecclesiastes, he expounded on the value and need of friendship. We need others in our lives, and Solomon’s wisdom recognized God’s presence in his. He wrote in chapter four that a threefold cord is not quickly broken. I believe he envisioned God as a third helping entity in any personal relationship. So, the next time you gaze into that looking glass, with your loved one’s arms wrapped lovingly around your waist, look at the reflected image, look beyond the so called flaws, distortions, and fears and see that third image with His loving arms securely wrapped around the two of you, forming a very strong, impenetrable cord of protection, love, and future possibilities!