30Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain [because it is not lasting], but a woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord, she shall be praised! –Proverbs 31:30 (AMP)
I do not know of a Christian woman alive that is not familiar with the Proverbs 31 woman. Ministries are named after this woman. Church curriculums and Bible studies are taught with this title. She is an amazing creature, seemingly perfect. It is almost discouraging at times. How can we possibly attain this?
Everything in the Bible, every task at hand, can be accomplished if guided by one key phrase:
“Reverently fear and worship the Lord”
What exactly does this mean? To reverence someone simply means to respect, be devoted to and amazed by. And what is the greatest form of worship? Obedience:
22Samuel said, Has the Lord as great a delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as in obeying the voice of the Lord? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams. 1 Samuel 15:22 (AMP)
Lack of obedience is where woman, from the beginning, first failed not only God, but her husband.
6And when the woman saw that the tree was good (suitable, pleasant) for food and that it was delightful to look at, and a tree to be desired in order to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate; and she gave some also to her husband, and he ate. –Genesis 3:6 (AMP)
Eve failed to put God first. She failed to be devoted, respectful and obedient to His will. What she wanted and what she thought was best took precedence. In turn, she led her husband astray.
Don’t get me wrong, Adam failed to correct her. The first man and his wife, and he couldn’t correct her. We like to reiterate that as woman, don’t we? “If Adam would have stood up and been a man like he should have, this wouldn’t be an issue”.
Maybe we had better check that plank in our own eyes ladies! How many of us just heed the correction of our husbands? Be honest with yourself! How often do you feel that puffing up in your chest and think, either out loud or silently, “You’re not going to tell me what to do”! “You’re not going to control me”.
I am not referring to abusive relationships. I am speaking of Christian brothers and sisters in Christ, sitting in our “Couple’s” groups and attending our “Marriage” conferences in the Church.
Bear with me another moment here and take a look at this Scripture:
20And another said, I have married a wife, and because of this I am unable to come. - Luke 14:20 (AMP)
If you go back and read the passage in its entirety, Jesus is referring to the people who were making excuses for declining the invitation of His call. This gives us a very important clue here to becoming that Godly wife.
What do Eve and the wife of the man in this passage have in common? They both failed to direct their husbands toward God.
Do you remember Michal?
20Then David returned to bless his household. And [his wife] Michal daughter of Saul came out to meet David and said, How glorious was the king of Israel today, who stripped himself of his kingly robes and uncovered himself in the eyes of his servants' maids as one of the worthless fellows shamelessly uncovers himself! 2 Samuel 6:20 (AMP)
Here again, this wife failed to encourage her husband in his walk with God. She actually despised him, how he worshipped and was ashamed of him. Do you know what happened to her? She was barren; she had no children, to the day of her death.
Of all three of these examples, the common factor is their failure to encourage their husbands towards God’s will. How does that contrast to the Proverbs 31 woman?
12She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her. Proverbs 31:12 (AMP)
Encouraging comes from being honest with him, not enabling him to do things that will lead Him out of the will of God. Comforting and supporting him comes into play when he feels as though he has failed. Doing him only good is to be weighed only by what God says.
Eve saw the tree and she saw it was good… but what did God say? I personally think she had vision problems that led to hearing problems! That would be a likely excuse. But the truth remains she was not obedient. She had her own interests at heart.
A true Godly wife, like the Proverbs 31 woman, recognizes that it is always in her best interest, to seek her husband’s best interests, which should lead him only to God’s best interests for him.
Do not be discouraged! Take heart. Eve knew the answer before she made the choice. So can you! Worship the Lord with a life of obedience, always directing your husband closer to Him. That is the fruit of a Godly Wife.