ýJanuary ý09, ý2012
I was reading one of my emails this morning (I'm glad to hear from alot of you by private email, also). I began to think about something I've noticed and watched happen for years.
You may recognize what I'm about to write ... you may have been a 'victim'... later, to have nothing and left wondering 'what happened'.
Truthfully, I can only write about what I know to be true by knowing actual people who are guilty of this... or have been a 'victim'. I've never been a 'victim'... nor intend to ever be.
Have you ever noticed..... (if not ..you will from now on... or if you are an 'intended victim'... you may think about this and stop it in time before you are left.. with nothing)......... have you ever noticed that when men die, there are what I call 'widow- seekers' ...who come calling on his widow? ('Widow-Seekers'... is my name for these type of men... I've never heard anyone else use it. :)))))
These are the men who rear back in their chairs with that little greedy glint in their eyes. They are the ones who brag the loudest about 'what they got'. These are the men who are like little banty roosters... they are indeed 'cock of the walk'. They have the world by the tail.... by someone else's tail. they never earned it.
They seem to have a wad of money in their pocket, they always seem to be flashing it. They always have the best of everything, they always seem to have plenty of time on their hands... they 'really don't have to work'. They are quick to tell others that. 'They don't have to work'.
What they don't tell anyone is that when a man dies, the widow-seeker either knows that man, or hears about that man........ they beam in on the widow.
the widow-seeker is an expert on comforting a woman when she is grieving, he's the first one to get her a tissue for her tears! After-all.... this man, this widow-seeker.... 'really cares'. The woman, the widow, the 'victim' falls for it.
The next thing you know.. the victim has gotten her husband's insurance money, all the while, the widow-seeker has been glued to her side. How caring, how loving he is. There's nothing quite like this widow he has sought. He loves the ground she walks on.
What the 'victim'... widow doesn't know is, she had better take advantage of such love and attention.. because this is the best she's ever going to get from the widow-seeker!
Once the deceased husband's insurance money comes... and the widow-seeker gets 'his part'... he is in business. He is all of a sudden a 'wealthy man' and has 'everything'. He is ready to begin attracting other women.
What a fine man this widow-seeker is. Why now, he is looking good, looking his best because he is the happiest when he has another 'cash cow' to take care of his wonderful, charismatic ass. The truth is the ...truth and this is the way I see it.
This man, this widow-seeker, is happiest when he is in this position. I've known alot of widow-seekers personally... I have listened closely to learn their secrets... though, I have no respect for them. They don't know that, though. :)))) I smile and I'm sweet... I don't show my colors to them.
Though I don't have respect for them, I'm thankful for their life's lessons to me. There is always a widow-maker close by ...ready to run and catch a widow 'before she hits the ground'.
He will catch her, hold her, soothe her with his silky words, and wrap her up in his cocoon of warmth. Oh yes, the widow-seeker is a slick character! He is the best of the best.
It's easy to be the best of the best... when you know someone is going to hand you the keys to a fine vehicle, to a wad of money, to another man's bed, his home, and his woman. It's easy to be on top of the world ...knowing everything is going to be handed to you, no questions asked.
The widow-seeker has earned it by being so sweet, so comforting and so, strong. He has wooed the widow with his soft, silky voice... no matter he isn't handsome. The widow isn't looking at this time, she is hearing... so, that voice and what it says is... important. The widow-seeker knows this instinctively.
When about six months has gone by... it's time to get back to living (in this widow-seeker's mind). The widow-seeker is well-established in his 'nest' now. He becomes alittle irritated from time to time at the widow, making her afraid he will leave her life. She has fallen in love with him!
This sets the widow to thinking... she can't bear the thoughts of this wonderful man leaving her life. She can't see how he acts when he is out of her sight. Her friends are telling her, but, everybody knows how 'freinds' are... you can't trust a word they are saying. Especially.. when they get in the way of what one wants ... they are never right.
That old widow-seeker is out flashing a wad of cash, driving her husband's big pickup around, and flirting with women... sitting in those little groups you see at old country stores, bragging.
Oh yes! I got the world by the tail, he thinks. So, he does! He has to 'seal the deal' now.... he has got to convince the widow that she needs him to be her husband... after-all, he needs that home of hers... to be his, too! Can't leave that home out! He's got to be sure he can't be kicked out of 'his home'.
He convinces the widow to take him for her lawful, wedded husband and they say 'I do'! Then... it begins.........
Her life falls apart quickly, the widow-seeker has become tired of pretending. He begins to show 'his real colors'. He shows this b............. who is boss now, she is his wife and she damn-well better listen to him. If she doesn't, he'll either kick her ass or... worse, he'll leave her.
That woman knows her place, she begins to listen. She can't go through life without a man! That's shameful... don't let women go through life without a .... MAN! So what does she do?
She becomes a 'good' wife. She will continue to work her ass off to support him. She will buy him expensive gifts from the insurance money from her deceased husband. Money that was meant to take care of her, children that are left behind.
The widow-seeker is the one who makes out like a fat cat. He will get that little round belly from lots of good beer or liquor, and eating lots of good foods. After-all, he gets the best... all comes from a man that died who once worked hard for everything the widow-seeker now 'owns', so that the widow-seeker never has to work. One has to take care of the widow-seeker!
Actually, the widow-seeker is a very insecure person... he doesn't dare let on to anyone how vulnerable he is. He has to appear strong, forceful so, that the woman he has seduced into being his wife now... will be afraid of him and what he might do.
She might try kicking him out sometimes, only to beg him to come back. This is exactly what he wants. When she gets upset and screams at him... he'll scream back 'but, you begged me to come back to you!' He is the one with all the power.
This goes on and on.... and on. The ball is in the widow-seeker's court. The wife of the widow-seeker is on the losing team.... she doesn't even know it. She can't see anything because the widow-seeker is always busy... kicking up dust.
Kicking up dust to 'blind' her.. so, that she doesn't see what he is doing behind her back. The fun he has behind her back.... he likes to get that good-loving from the local 'loose women' who are always there to comfort any 'misunderstood' man that comes along.
The widow-seeker is the most misunderstood man there is. He makes sure these women know that. While he is 'crying' to them, they are giving him what he desires most... lots of good loving he can go brag about to his friends.
Oh yes, the widow-seeker has everything. He has the world by the tail. Watch him, pay attention and you'll be entertained by his actions. The next time a man dies, keep your eyes on his widow.... soon she'll be accompanied by a ...widow-seeker. They come like vultures when there's death.
They clean up like vultures do, leaving only the skelton behind. They literally suck the life out of the woman they attach themselves to. Watch how her eyes, her face changes within months after, the widow-seeker convinces her to marry him.
The widow-seeker is the winner... unless the widow is smart and catches on. She can be the winner of her life, her decisions, the money left to make sure she and any children don't have to suffer. She can be free of hell, if she uses the widow-seeker... instead.
Use his comforting words, his cocoon of warmth, be respectful to him and..... go your way. Don't let him know that you've used him, use your sweetest voice with him, thank 'him' for all 'he's done' in your time of need. Just don't let him get his foothold into your life. I promise you that your life will be so much better without the grief...... the widow-seeker would bring.
If you died today, are you absolutely certain that you would go to heaven? You can be! TRUST JESUS NOW
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