Godly example: As parents, God holds us fully accountable to faithfully represent His authority and standards for more than just providing food, shelter, and protection. The best way to raise godly children is, by parents being godly and setting and living as a Godly example. There is always a success and rewards in parenting in Godly ways. Because of the grace of God, the Christian is quite capable of exercising self-control in overcoming the passions of the flesh. There is no sin habit which cannot be overcome. The thoughts and emotions are under the Christians control. One can block out certain thoughts and emotions, killing the passions of the flesh.
As parents, we need to teach our children to seek godly character, for themselves, and in those with whom they would associate. Along with loving God and being a godly example by committing ourselves to His commands, we need to “Repeat them again and again to our children. Talk about them when we are at home and when we are away on a journey, when we are lying down and when we are getting up again. Tie them to our hands as a reminder, and wear them on our forehead. Write them on the doorposts of our house and on our gates” (Deuteronomy 6:7-9). As a Parent we need to be the reflectors of God to our children by teaching our children’s the statues , the commandments and the laws of the God so that our children’s we see by our words and actions and by our examples. As Christian parents we need to always stand up for doing right in everything we do. Good parenting begins with our right relationship with God. If we aren't right with Him, we simply cannot be and are not the right kind of parents. As parents we shape our children's attitudes, actions, behaviour and associations. It’s a Parents responsibility whether his family members are clothed with humility, pure, righteous and holy.
Parents need to warn and explain to their children that Satan is the god of this sinful world (2nd Corinthians 4:4). Children need to be taught that the Devil is a liar, but appears deceitfully as an honest person (Matthew 7:15). The Devil is a fallen angel of darkness; but he deceitfully appears to people as an angel of light from Heaven (2nd Corinthians 11:13,14). There are so many Parents in the Bible such as Noah, Abraham, Job, Joseph, Jacob, Jephthah, Eunice, Hannah, Aaron etc.
The ungodly example: The ungodly Parents think according to worldly and they compromise according to the pleasures to the world and they do not avoids anything that would pollute their home and family like smoking, drinking, drugs, sexual immorality, ungodly people, bad television programs which is based on immorality, violence etc., being workaholic and neglecting their primary duties inside the family. Many professing Christians Parents are living spiritually defeated lives because of their addictions such as smoking, drugs and alcohol,pornography,gambling,bad televesions programs, Ungodly relationships, adulterous living etc. They knew it was wrong and because they could not overcome it they were affected spiritually. As a result they tried to justify their sin gradually develop a rebellious spirit. They destroy the testimony for Christ because they were controlled by their addiction and could not seem to overcome it and they can’t be a real soul winner for Christ. Our bodies, mind and heart are to be clean and free of any sinful habit wholly dedicated to our Lord. Holy Spirit controls our actions in our life if we walk by the Spirit of God and the Holy Bible will keep us away from sin. If we do not completely surrender to the Holy sprit, the evil spirit will have chance to corrupt our lifestyles. If Parents have any kind of bad addiction chances are more that their children’s will have same sort of addictions.Childrens watch and learn behavior from their parents. They repeat what their parents say and do. Many parents smoke or drink alcohol in front of their children which results directly or indirectly a bad witness for Christ and bad example for their childrens as well as around other believers. Some parents mistakenly believe that it is not harmful to smoke if they do it with a window open or after their children are asleep. A child's exposure to passive smoke is about three times higher than a peer in a non-smoking family if the father smokes but is raised by more than six times if the mother does and by almost nine-fold if both parents light up. Some Parents even say that there is nothing wrong and they all grew up in such environment and they say that the children need to get immunity for smoking or any filthy addiction.
For them this is what the scriptures say:
Matthew 15:8 This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with their lips; but their heart is far from me.
Matthew 12:35 A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things.
Romans 1:21 Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened.
Ephesians 4:18 Having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart
Psalms 12:2 They speak vanity every one with his neighbour: with flattering lips and with a double heart do they speak.
Acts 28:26-27 Saying, Go unto this people, and say, Hearing ye shall hear, and shall not understand; and seeing ye shall see, and not perceive: For the heart of this people is waxed gross, and their ears are dull of hearing, and their eyes have they closed; lest they should see with their eyes, and hear with their ears, and understand with their heart, and should be converted, and I should heal them.
Second hand smoke from cigarettes harms not just the smoker, but family, friends and co-workers. The Bible says we are to love our neighbor. Jesus said that loving one's neighbor was next to loving one's parents "Honor thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself" (Matthew 19:19 ). Romans 13:10 teaches us that "Love worketh no ill to his neighbour." It is certainly not an act of love to smoke around other people exposing them to the deadly effects of cigarette smoke.Childrens do not need to get immunity for bad things but for Good things. Our society and families have become desensitized to sin .If we live a bad example before our children and If we do not train our children in godly ways, we lack confidence in our ability to shape our children & give up on our responsibilities to morally cultivate our children. We abandon them to others for spiritual instruction. We pridefully busy ourselves in other activities and jobs. We spoil our children for control. We do not consistently discipline our children. This is the false way of Christian parenting.
No wonder our children are confused about right and wrong when parents degrade the sanctity of marriage by living together out of wedlock. Children are their parents mirror.
There are parents who teach their children to shoplift and put them up to stealing from others. There are parents that purchase alcohol for their underage teens and let them drink at home with their friends because they feel it is safer for them than to be out doing it elsewhere. There are parents who have addiction with alcohol or drugs or tobacco etc actually engage in drinking or using such things with their teens. There are parents who take their children along to adult parties where others are drinking and using drugs. They feel that as long as their children are with them they are good parents. Wrong! There are some parents who teach and encourage their children to lie. A good example of this is parents who try to use their children as a source of income such as those who try to get disability benefits by having their children fake emotional or behavior disorders.
To prosper in parenting duties, a parent, must recognize their sinful behavior right away, then confess it, and most importantly forsake it. We'll easily overcome the traps of bad parenting with the help of God's wisdom when we forget our ways and cling to Gods ways, by obeying God and living Godly lives in every area of our life & to be a good influence around our families, childrens.When our Parenting is on Gods word Our Families will prosper , our society and their by our nation prospers!