Today ' s children face an overall absence of godly examples and moral living in a society! As parents, we need to parent them with a Biblical perspective. God does His part all the time. But the parents need to realize that they have a part to play in Godly upbringing.
First, as a parent you must live out your faith in your own life. Parents are responsible to train their children in all that is included in "the way of the Lord. Proverbs state that a child left alone will eventually bring shame. Parents should know so they can assist their children to make godly decisions. If parents fail to train their children in Godly way keeping their lives holy, they will be letting the world do the training to be unholy.
God hold parents responsible to keep training their children, even after they are grown, is found in 1 Sam. 2 and 3. In 2:22, we learn of the sin of Eli ' s sons: "Now Eli was very old, and heard all that his sons did unto all Israel; and how they lay with the women that assembled at the door of the tabernacle of the congregation." It is obvious that these sons were grown men. We learn later that they were married. Solomon was trained right, but rebelled in his youth. Then, when he was old, he did exactly what Prov. 22:6 promises: he did not depart from the training of his early days.
The bible says that Wicked Children does not know God( 1 Samuel 2:12) they void of understanding(Proverbs 7:7)and are proud (Isaiah 3:5) Some parents incorrectly believe it is up to God to deal with their children’s tendency toward rebelliousness! As parents, God holds us fully accountable to faithfully represent His authority and standards. He does not leave us empty handed in dealing with our children’s wayward tendencies
Instruction is the responsibility of the parents, something our society seems to have forgotten. We cannot depend on schools alone to educate our children academically; we cannot depend on Sunday School alone to instruct our kids in the Word of God. In Deuteronomy chapter 6, God says through Moses: "These commandments I give you this day are to be upon your hearts, and you shall teach them diligently to your children" at all times. Parents have the responsibility to instruct their children in God ' s word by example and direct teaching. When godly people raised as godly children they make godly decisions and take godly actions that will influence the home and the society.
Hannah offered Samuel to God even before he was born. Hannah marked Samuel before he came out of her womb. Hannah sent Samuel to Eli, the priest at the temple. The surroundings were not very good at Eli ' s place. Eli had sons that did not do things that pleased God. They were very ungodly but still Samuel was not affected by their behavior. Parents must be good examples for their children, because children are natural imitators.
Many parents spend long hours working to provide physical things for their children, but they are so busy working that they neglect to give their children time and attention.The Parents have taken up the philosophy of the world hence Todays the children are left to their own freedom, parents leave children to raise themselves , and are exposed to confusion they stumble into in the hands of their friends ,strangers, schools ,daycares who have taken the place of their parents in their lives An atmosphere filled with, unrighteous, corruptible ,disobedience,lust,adultery,freedom to sin ,impure,violent ,sinful,immoral,ungodly ,condemnation will provoke a child to wrath and hence the child goes rebellious and choses to walk away from God walk his own way in life, disobey God and finally rebels against God ,In Ephesians 6:4 - Bring your children up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
How many Parents today say prayers for themselves and for their children? How many Parents teach their children the scriptures, Bible reading, importance of God and attending church, associating with Godly believers and friends, rejecting any thing which is sinful? How many Husbands love their wife like Christ loved the church, delight and respect in her conversation, protect and support her , Dedicate themselves ,their own home ,children’s life to Christ?
The apostle Peter is a good example of a person who was with the wrong crowd. Because he was with the wrong group of people, he denied Christ.
Further, Christian parents have a responsibility to not only set an example for their children of what a godly marriage ought to be; they also ought to show their children how Christian marriage mirrors the relationship between Christ and the church. If covenant children have a godless, irresponsible father or a worldly, rebellious mother, they are denied the benefit of a truly Christian godly household. Some people place an undue emphasis on money, career and success. While money, career and success are good things when used lawfully, they become idols when they become an end in themselves, when they are not used to glorify Christ. A Christian family needs to place their children above their possessions.
Everyone has their ups and downs in a relationship, but relationships are not meant to be disposable. There is so much divorce, broken families , single Parents because influenced by the society cultures, unbiblical concepts of love, happiness, fulfillment. Which substitutes for God’s law.
Pastor Terry Coomer in his article he said that According to the National Fatherhood Institute, 40% of the children in the United States have not seen their father for a year! In the last 15 years “fatherless” children jumped from 10.2 million to 15.6 million. 70% of juveniles in detention centers and reformatories are children of fatherless homes. Statistics indicate that “violent criminals” are overwhelmingly males who grew up without a father’s leadership. This includes 60% of America’s rapists, 72% of adolescent murders, and 70% of long-term prison inmates. One out of every four high school seniors graduate functionally illiterate. It is more than a physical presence.
There are many homes where a father is there, but that is all. They want all their needs fulfilled, but do not want to take the spiritual, godly, or normal leadership that God intended. Instead children grow up listening to their parents fight, cuss, yell, scream, spend money on all kinds of entertainment and material possessions trying to be happy.
The father’s failure to take responsibility and leadership in the home has created a valueless, unhappy, fractured home and society. This failure has had a devastating effect on our children and has spawned a multitude of wicked societal problems including delinquency, sexual promiscuity, drug use, and violence.
The family is in trouble in America because men fail to be the leaders God wants them to be. We desperately need to pray for the men of this country to do as God has commanded. The results of the men not obeying God have been disastrous. The great need is for men to repent of their sins, to really come to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ, and then to be obedient to the commands of God from His Word. Men must be the leaders God desires them to be. Christ and God comes above the Culture of this world.
These below statistics reveal some serious problems that we are facing in the family, and these numbers were from 19 years ago and are much worse now.
The Lord’s curse is on the house of the wicked, but he blesses the home of the righteous.” Proverbs 3:24. God says that marriage is for a lifetime. In 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, the wife is told not to depart from her husband, but if she does depart, she is given two choices: She is to stay unmarried, or she is to be reconciled to her husband.
1. Divorces granted 1970--708,000, 1980--1,170,000 up 65%
2. Unmarried couples 1970--523,000, 1980--1,346,000 up 157%
3. Persons living alone 1970--10,851,000, 1980--17,202,000 up 58.5%
4. Children living with two parents 1970--58,926,000, 1980--48,295,000 down 18%
5. Children living with one parent 1970--8,230,000, 1980--11,528,000 up 40.1%
6. Families with both husband and wife working 1970--20,327,000, 1980--24,253,000 up 19.4%
God largely uses parents to train children for His purposes and he directs parents in the training of their children by His Word and the Holy Spirit.
Discipline your son, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to his death.” Proverbs 19:18
Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death.” Proverbs 23:13-14.