No-fault divorce was introduced to the world by Russia in 1917. Prior to then the church defined the boundaries of marriage and family life, and because God hates divorce, divorce was virtually unheard of. But after the Communist Revolution, the State, by instituting an easy path to the destruction of the family, was then able to keep political control of the very people they “intended” to free; i.e., instead of turning to whatever church or synagogue they attended regarding their marriage, people now had to turn to the government, thereby giving the State immense power and control it didn’t have previously.
So out of the birth of Communism was born no-fault divorce.
No fault divorce was instituted in America in California in 1970. As of today, all 50 states are no-fault states. Meaning that should one wish to divorce his partner, the person he swore he would be faithful to until death, he can simply walk away without having to prove said person did anything wrong. And people wonder why marriages are in trouble -- they are in trouble because as a society we treat them as if they have no value whatsoever. The marriage contract is no contract at all -- it’s a whim.
A simple fact of life -- by making marriage worthless, we’ve made it too easy to just walk away rather than fight to keep our word and save our family. People get married today while saying, “Well, if it doesn’t work out we can always get divorced.” With that attitude, it is no wonder most marriages fail.
Americans will sue anyone for almost anything. We won’t allow injustice, real or perceived. We want every contract, verbal or written, enforced to the “T,” but want our marriage contract destroyed almost instantaneously because we feel like it, or we’ve found another “soul mate.” Again, marriage is no longer revered, because as a society we no longer give it meaning or reverence.
And the children of divorce are harmed beyond what we were at first told by so-called “experts” in the early ‘70s. Back then it was argued that it would be better for kids if they weren’t raised in an unhappy home, even if that meant they would, in effect, lose one parent in the process. Of course, time has revealed the lie. In my book, “No Innocent Affair,” I offer statistics regarding children who lose a parent to divorce, and they are staggering. They are a disgrace. If anyone else did to our kids what divorce does, we’d rightfully scream “child abuse!”
Perhaps the best way to understand the wrongness of no-fault divorce is to invent a situation where the ridiculous illustrates the sublime.
Allow me to introduce Mr. and Mrs. X -- the wife is a good woman who has made every human effort to be the perfect wife and mother. The husband is a quasi-alcoholic who abuses his wife mentally and verbally. He is also chronically unfaithful, and at one point gave his wife an STD he caught who knows where. He is, by any and all standards, a terrible father to his innocent children. He spends much of the family finances on a gambling problem. About six months ago he left the house to live with his latest girl friend. His wife, on the other hand, has gotten another part-time job to feed the family -- is still faithful -- remains a good mother…and now, in addition to her motherly duties, must be a father to the children her husband abandoned. The husband files for divorce citing “irreconcilable differences.”
And how will they be treated in family court (an oxymoron if there ever was one)? The same. I hope you’re starting to feel uncomfortable with the concept of no-fault divorce, because here’s the truth. When there is a divorce, someone is at fault. And fairness should dictate that the person who is responsible be held accountable, while the victim, the person who has kept his or her end of the bargain, be held harmless. But the courts see both innocent, both guilty.
It should also alarm us that the profiteers of no-fault divorce are lawyers. They championed the no-fault concept in America knowing full well that they were creating a growing and profitable pool of clients that would never end. Prior to no-fault divorce few lawyers in a community could survive by practicing family law alone. But with no-fault divorce, the majority of lawyers are in that very business.
So we have a historically revealing trend. No-fault divorce benefits the State and lawyers at the expense of families. Now who might want such a scenario? The obvious answer is Satan. He is the one who wants marriages destroyed, and what better way than to grease the skids, thereby making divorce as easy as falling off a log.
America has always had as its backbone the strength of its families -- but those days are gone. How sad God must be at our folly, as the Bible says, "For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one's garment with violence," Says the LORD of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously." (Malachi 2:16 NKJV)
On one hand we have a law conceived by ruthless Communists and now prosecuted by greedy American lawyers. On the other hand we have our loving God.
And we are paying the price as a nation, because we have chosen the former at the expense of the latter.
Edward Mrkvicka is a lay minister and counselor, and life-long Bible student. His religious writings have been awarded Best Christian Book of the Year, Best Christian Study of the Year, named a National Best Book Awards finalist, and a winner in the Christian Choice Book Awards. He has also been awarded the prestigious Faith Writers Seal of Approval.
His efforts on behalf of families, understanding adultery, and the devastating effect of divorce on children have earned him a United States Certificate of Special Congressional Recognition “in recognition of outstanding and invaluable service to the community.”
His most recent book, “No Innocent Affair: Making Right the Wrong of Adultery,” is available at bookstores and Amazon.com.