5If any of you is deficient in wisdom, let him ask of the giving God [Who gives] to everyone liberally and ungrudgingly, without reproaching or faultfinding, and it will be given him. –James 1:5
How many times have you attended a conference or teaching on the Proverbs 31 woman? How often have you read it? And how often have you looked at it, prayed to be that, failed, turned around and thought: forget it, it’s hopeless.
There are so many interpretations, teachings, books, sermons and opinions based on The Proverbs and wisdom. Certainly we can read it and draw conclusions of our own. To me, it’s just all very practical. Why then do we seemingly have such a difficult time in adapting it to our daily life?
In all honesty, I believe that many of us are living our lives in defensive mode. Pardon me, but since this is my blog, I feel the liberty to state my opinion, the whole feminist movement did nothing but expand the gap between what women need, what they truly want and what they get. It sets in cycle a motion that leads to constant disappointment, anger, self-loathing and insecurity.
1EVERY WISE woman builds her house, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands. – Proverbs 14:1
How? Why? We live in a society where we have been taught we can have it all; career, family, social activities, the best of the best, fine homes and cars, mega- churches, etc. Let me make very clear that I do not begrudge anyone, any of these things.
Now let me point out one very tiny fact, which not one single soul on this entire earth, can disagree with me. Are you ready for this? There is no more time. No matter how much drive you have, no matter how many things you cram in, no matter how many accomplishments you rack up before you die, you are still working within the same time constraint. Twenty four hours a day, seven days a week, three hundred and sixty five days a year.
Yet in spite of this one fact, we have been taught we are entitled to more. We are encouraged to work harder. We can have it all! Yet in the end, we have nothing. Quality or quantity?
In society’s eyes, it has become an “old fashioned” mindset to want a life of a man and woman, where he provides for and cares for her. Oh, I forgot, unless you are taught that you can get a “sugar daddy”, and then it’s cool. Sorry, but the truth can get ugly.
Our sons and daughters grow up weighing their self-worth against the labels on their clothes, or the amount of “friends” on their Facebook page. Why; because that’s exactly what their parents are modeling for them.
Marriage? Are you kidding me? Hollywood dictates the message of marriage in our society, especially to your children, and guess what, you allow it. Why? So your kids can fit in? That’s what you want for them?
What about you? Are you trying so hard to look like a magazine cover because you are afraid of losing your husband? Are you bringing magazines and catalogs into your houses that have no business being there? Are you contributing to your own marital demise and insecurity?
I want to be cherished by my husband! I want my husband to only have eyes for me. I want what the Bible says I can have! I want my daughter to realize the privilege of being a wife and a mother; I want her to experience the gift of a Godly husband. I want my sons to be blessed with godly wives and children! I want all of us to experience the gift of giving ourselves freely and completely to one another without fear or defensiveness.
When did this way of life lose its place as normal in society; when we ceased to walk with wisdom. When we put God and His ways in history instead of applying it to our daily lives.
When did the measuring stick change from Biblical principles to the ways of the world? And when did the Church trade theirs in?
Why have we had to develop support groups? Because we came to accept something outside of Gods will, His Wisdom as a way of life. Think about it. For every area of compromise, there has to be a support group created to help you through when you fail at whatever it is you shouldn’t have been doing in the first place. Where is the wisdom in that?
Why has it become so commonplace for a husband to leave his wife, his children his family? Why can mothers abandon their children for the sake of finding themselves? Forget out of wedlock babies, they are teen pregnancies, abortions, homosexual relationships, new drugs for new sexually transmitted diseases and the list goes on!
All of this for the “evolution” of society? I have another term for it. Addicted to society. Better start a support group.
Does it seem like your life is on a treadmill, stuck on high speed, uphill, with nobody there to pull the plug? Jump! You might be afraid, jump anyway. You might even end up with some bumps and bruises, its ok.
You see, no matter how hard you try, you can’t change the quantity of time you are allotted. No matter how hard you push, you can’t keep God shut up in history. He is here, He is now, whether you choose to recognize it or not. His ways are wisdom. You cannot separate wisdom from God. Can you hear Him calling?
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