Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? So he that goeth in to his neighbour’s wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.
But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away. Proverbs 6: 27-29, 32-33;
As a married man or woman, part of the key requirements of the marriage covenant between you and your spouse is to remain faithful to each other for as long as both of you are alive. At creation, whereas God made animals in such a way that several many of them –both males and females were created all at the same time in multiple numbers, which made it not strange for animals to have several sexual partners at the same time among themselves, it is noteworthy that when God made man (Adam), He made only one female (Eve) as his partner, which clearly shows that marriage (according to God's order) does not leave any room for any form of sexual relationship with any woman (lady or girl) apart from your spouse. In line with God’s provision for marriage, you are duty bound to observe the creed of faithfulness and fidelity, this is not a matter of choice or convenience!
Adultery is a grievous sin that destroys the souls of those who are caught in its webs. Like cancer, adultery has the ability to rapidly wear out, not only the body, but even the soul of foolish people who engage in it. In the world, people attempt to create several excuses for engaging in sexual relationships outside their matrimonial home; some create such excuses as neglect or nonchalant attitudes of their spouses for looking for sex outside their matrimonial home. Truth is, no matter how much excuses people attempt to create to legitimize their infidelity acts of engaging in sex with someone who is not their spouse, it still does not reduce the terrible consequences and judgment of God! The wounds inflicted by adultery are usually very sore, the reproaches according to the scriptures, cannot be wiped away! For instance, when David fell into sin of adultery with Beersheba, Uriah’s wife, he sought the face of God in true repentance and thereafter obtained forgiveness, but the scars and reproaches which came as consequences of the infidel acts were not wiped away! It’s not in doubt that God offers opportunity for repentance and forgiveness to those who have been caught in the traps of sin of adultery, but the most desirable thing is to keep ourselves from falling victims in the first instance.
Apart from the fact that anyone who engages in extramarital affairs in whatever form is regarded by God as a covenant breaker, another grievous effect of adultery is that it brings serious spiritual pollution and contamination into the family as a result of the strange blood introduced from the strange man or woman through sexual intercourse. In addition, as a consequence of adultery, many people have brought generational curses on themselves, especially those married men who have at one time or the other carried out abortions for their girlfriends, or married women who have at one time or the other terminated pregnancies for their men friends and sexual partners in an attempt to cover up their atrocities. This is what the bible describes as ‘blood guiltiness’ which is a terrible curse; the blood of the innocent babies which have been so killed will continue to cry for vengeance against such people and their generations unless they confess their sins and turn to the Almighty God in genuine repentance.
Adultery is one sin that certainly leads to chains of other sinful acts and events which may eventually result in physical and spiritual death- eternal separation from God; the best thing is never to trigger the process or get engaged in any form of secret affairs. The price of adultery clearly outweighs the derivable pleasures! Many are losing their inheritance and glorious destinies on the altar of sexual immorality, it’s not worth it! The book of Proverbs 5:3-11 says ‘For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell. Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them. Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth. Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house: Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel: Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger; And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed’.
Anyone who is engaged in extra marital affairs is breaking the sacred covenant of God, because God is a witness to our marriages’ vows according to Malachi 2:14; ‘Do you know why? Simple. Because God was there as witness when you spoke your marriage vows to your young bride, and now you’ve broken those vows, broken the faith-bond with your vowed companion, your covenant wife’ (Message). God is a covenant keeper Himself and will never bear with anyone who is a covenant breaker. If you have broken the covenant of sanctity of marriage, the right time to make amends and seek the face of God for forgiveness is now!
In the world, the sanctity of marriage is being eroded fast, but the story must be different with God’s children who are heaven-bound. In this age that hosts of darkness are attacking homes and scattering marriages, we believers must stand firm in righteousness to defend our homes and shield our marriages from the enemies’ severe attacks. One major way we can avoid the bondage of adultery and extra marital affairs is to remain totally transparent and faithful to our spouses. If you are having challenges or experiencing serious sexual temptations from a particular man or woman, the wisest thing to do in order to gain your freedom is to face it! You can prayerfully have honest discussions with your spouse on this with a view to taking practical steps to free yourself from such bondage while seeking experience of total sanctification form fleshly and lustful desires.
It is important too that you do not give rooms to the enemy; living apart or separation from your spouse for too long a time is not advisable. In addition, it is expected that you and your spouse must seek ways to continue to remain attractive and charming to each other. Invest your time and thoughts in your spouse to make him or her your desired man or woman at all times rather than looking for what is not. Your spouse has all that you’re looking for, cultivate him or her and you will see discover this! Always remember that you must keep your marriage vows by remaining faithful and truthful to your wife for as long as both of you are alive.