Men in our society have it hard. They are reduced to focus solely on love. Everything today revolves around the feeling of love. Superficial romantic love rules our society, rather than the choice of loving somebody through good and bad, rich and poor; no, all that has been thrown out. Instead, its Hallmark cards, Kay Jewelry (by the way, every kiss does NOT begin with Kay), roses; the woman has complete power over the dating and even marriage process. How depressing, women have made themselves into these nagging, overbearing, bossy creatures. We dishonor our men over and over again, telling them they "should've showered before we went out", or "this doesn't match that", or "you didn't do this right". And the men remain silent. We have taken away their personalities, the very masculinity and leadership that God bore in them. What a shame. We should be enjoying men for who they are, embracing their differences, not turning them into love mongers. That is unnatural for them, as it should be. Any time a man is showing a woman love, he is going out of his comfort zone for her. Imagine that, how often men reach beyond who they are and how much more many women still expect of them. Listen to all the pop culture, all the media, it is so overwhelmingly love-dominant, these guys must feel like they're suffocating. Women have stolen the respect that men need right out of our culture. Why don't we stand beside them with pride? Puff up their chest instead of blurting unending criticisms and holding insatiable expectations. What is their motivation for even trying to please their woman if its never good enough for her? Instead, women give each other high-fives for having a man "whipped", like its a conquest. I've even seen men roll their eyes jokingly over the comments of being "on a leash". Or we place cake-toppers on our wedding dessert where a woman is dragging her man to the altar. How we became proud of this is beyond me. We're definitely not in denial about it, that's for sure.
Just as it might seem awkward or out of character for your man to show you love, so it is when you respect your husband. You demand him to love you unconditionally, there is absolutely no question about that being a part of the relationship. Its a given, a non-negotiable. God says that respect should be unconditional, also. What a different society we would live in, if we would respect our men unconditionally, whether they "disappointed" us or not. Who doesn't disappoint in this world? News flash: Everybody disappoints everybody; it is the very essence of being a human being. So why tear down the one who loves you over it? Choose to respect him...give him respect unconditionally. A man has been "trained" or "groomed" (what offensive lingo) to never say such a thing as "I won't love you if you gain weight". What is the difference if a woman says "I won't respect you unless you get a job", or "I'll only give you respect if you show me love". Its hypocritical and embarrasses me of my womanhood. Choose to respect him, just like he chooses to love you. Its the way God intended marriage to be.
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