If you want a major argument, just strike up a conversation and include the word "submission". Men are typically "for" it and women typically "against" it. And so the battle of the sexes rages.
Both views are SKEWED! Men think it means being a servant or being subservient while women look at it as losing freedom and becoming a slave. Like I said, BOTH are skewed.
To understand the TRUTH, one must look outside our "culture", "historical culture", patriarchal societies, and political correctness. There can ONLY be one TRUTH, everything else must by definition have contradictions and therefore become only "partial" truth. One design, made by a Being greater and grander than ourselves. God!
Whether you believe in "Him" or not, He does shed some very serious light on this subject by living within its "design" on purpose. Here we see God the Father, God the Son (Jesus), and God the Holy Spirit. Three persons, one Being, unfathomably deep in its concept. Although virtually impossible to understand, much less explain, His Word gives us principle illustrations of this word that ruffles so many feathers. Nowhere in Scripture do we find the Holy Spirit receiving anything that He does not pass on to Jesus, giving Him the glory. Likewise, Jesus deflects all honor and glory to The Father.
What we see here are three persons, equally God, yet with a hierarchy in terms of receiving Glory. Each with different responsibilities, which we see in several cases, the primary one that the Father had a "Plan" from the beginning, that plan was to crush Satan's head by sending His ONLY Son to pay the penalty of a fallen human race, death on a cross and taking on the sins of the whole world, past, present, and future. The Son would be tempted to take a different path in "...not My will, but the Father's will", remaining in "submission" to the Father. The Holy Spirit would be sent to the Church only AFTER Jesus had ascended to the right hand of the Father.
Let's take a look at the very word "submission" as it was designed by God. The word in the Greek means to "voluntarily put oneself under the authority of another". Voluntarily, not forced, not coerced, voluntarily. So when it says in Scripture that a wife is to "submit" to her husband, it is a voluntary action, anything else, she is simply a "slave".
With this "submission" comes a whole host of freedom, freedom from having to be the bread winner, freedom from the way the children are raised, freedom... When she as "wife" stands before God, her only account as wife is "did she voluntarily place herself under the authority of her husband"? That's it, nothing else was required of her! How much more freedom can you ask for?
On the other hand, the husband has just taken on an enormous amount of responsibility for he will be held accountable to the same God for taking care of his wife, her physical, emotional, and spiritual growth and well being, for providing financially for the family, for ultimately the way the children will be raised, for everything family related. Understanding this, what woman in her right mind would want to switch places?
There are, of course, some scenarios I can think of. The biggest being when the Husband bails on his responsibility to his family, reneging on a vow of "till death do us part". He may leave physically, but along with the 50%+ divorce rate, it can also be a spiritual or emotional checking out. Gone none the less. Given no other option, the woman becomes the head of the household. NOT what she was designed for, but doing it as well as she can, now with much more Responsibility than she should ever have to stand up under. And our society is reaping what we've sown, an exponential rise in fatal heart attacks for women.
The Scriptures says that women are the "weaker" vessel, God's design, NOT bad, just different. Because of this glaring difference, men have taken advantage of women by "enslaving" them, involuntarily putting them under their authority. Due to low self-esteem in Men, they are constantly living contrary to the Design by God of "laying down his life for his wife" by ruling over her with an iron fist to make up for this deficiency in his own esteem.
Most women you talk to want to make being under submission to their husbands a conditional situation. IF he loves her and would lay down his life for her, THEN she would be glad to submit. These 2 principles are Exclusive, not mutually Inclusive. She by design is called by God to "voluntarily place herself under the authority of her husband", which is the ONLY thing God will hold her to account! Other than emotional or physical abuse, she should be able to comply with this command.
For the Men, trying to force your wife to be submissive, is a direct violation of the term itself, by forcing her, its no longer submission, but slavery. NOT God's design. You are responsible for washing her with the Word, providing for her, loving her, even laying down your life... for her. To which most men say, I'd be glad to IF she was just submissive. Again, not Inclusive, but Exclusive, standing alone. When the husband stands before God, he is held to greater responsibility and account regardless of whether she was "submissive" or not.
Ultimately, submission is NOT a 4 letter word, but a 7 letter word - FREEDOM. Jesus said its for freedom's sake that I came to set you free. Understand it from God's design and Men, take your Responsibility much more seriously.
If you died today, are you absolutely certain that you would go to heaven? You can be! TRUST JESUS NOW
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