We all love our kids. Before I became a mother I never realized how deeply a parent loves their child. It is an intense love that goes beyond anything Iíve ever experienced. There is this primal instinct to protect, nurture and love them with every fiber of our being. With that said, letís admit it, sometimes they can drive us a little crazy! Sure theyíre angels but weíve all experienced their dark side also. What mom hasnít seen their little cherub throw a tantrum, or their teenager act in rebellion? The truth is theyíre human and so are we. Theyíll make mistakes, weíll make mistakes and it is important that weíre forgiving and give our children the same grace our Father gives us.
I think about the many missteps Iíve made during my lifetime and Iím so grateful that God has continually given me the grace I didnít deserve. As a parent of a five year old Iím reminded of how important it is to give my daughter that same grace. Weíre living in a tough world and discipline is vital to our childís wellbeing. We have a responsibility to raise them with morals, values, and to instill a love of God in them. We also have the tough job of disciplining and correcting them when we see them headed in the wrong direction. Iíve always believed discipline has to be mixed with love for it to be effective. If youíre just barking orders and punishing your child and not taking the time to gently discuss why youíre disciplining them, chances are theyíll rebel or lingering hurt feelings develop. If our goal is to instill a love for God in our children, then we have to be an example of his love. His love is awesome! We may never be able to perfectly imitate Godís love for us but we can try act as Jesus did. We can show our children forgiveness, unconditional love, and grace.
Sometimes we're all just a little unnecessarily tough on one another. We can hold each other hostage to mistakes that were made and this has long term detrimental effects. Does God hold all of our sins against us? When we ask for forgiveness arenít we forgiven? The Lord knows weíre sinners, it isnít a surprise to him and he doesnít expect us to be perfect. Itís important our children understand we donít expect them to be without fault. They should know there are consequences for their actions, but there is also forgiveness, understanding, and grace from their mom. When our children are the receipients of grace they'll be more likely to it to others and want to stay on the right path. Theyíll also feel more comfortable coming to use when they do something wrong or are in a s sticky situation. Give your children grace as the Lord has so freely given it to you, your children will appreciate and benefit greatly from it.
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