Conversely, we could ask the question also about NO.
Our lives are full of questions and we are continuously answering them. Some of us, and maybe all of us, would rather not answer questions with a definite yes or no and that is very likely because there is commitment in the answering.
In the culture of our day, in which we celebrate individual and independent choices, commitment is avoided as much as possible by all of us.
“Will you please wash the dishes?” “Will you mow the yard today?” are direct questions that require a yes or a no answer, or do they?
There are questions that are more subtle and sound like a request or a demand but actually they also require a yes or a no answer: “Give me a hundred dollars.”
To this type of question we may answer NO and then we may answer the subtle question by handing over the hundred dollars without any verbal comment, our action was the answer, “Yes.”
All of us care to make our lives as successful as possible but often question ourselves about, “What shall be?” and What shall I do?” Subtly, our questions are answered whether we recognize it or not.
“What shall I do?” is being answered by, "What am I doing? “What shall be?” is answered by, what I am doing.
There are those persons who think they can make few decisions and just let things happen as they will; the truth is that they have indeed made a decision; they have decided to not decide.
For some aspects of life, that may work for us, but it is seriously critical in most of the engagements of life that we make decisions and give proper answers to the straightforward, and to the subtle questions that are a never ending routine of our lives.
As much as we may want to avoid commitments, there is no chance of really living life without constant answers coming forward from us as a result of either what we verbalize, or by what we do or do not do.
In the living of our daily life there are indicators, road signs that give us a clear picture of where we are going and into what things we are planning to engage ourselves. Most of think that we don’t know, we have goals but too often they do not materialize and we think that “It just didn’t work out.”
I make a bold statement that I would ask you to consider, “You can know where you are going by what you are thinking about most of the time.” What are those pictures in your mind? What do you think about when you “see” them and what are the words that come from your mouth? Do you listen to those words?
God says that, “Man devises his own way and then is angry with God for the failure of the plans.” God allows our free will and choice. It is the way He made us, and He will not force us to do right while He will allow us to do wrong. He has made it clear that wrong choices made by us will reward us with painful and undesirable consequences. We don’t tend to like that setup do we?
The fact is that God has informed us clearly of the responsibility of our decisions, which we all make either by our commission or by omission. God has made known to us the facts of Nature, many of which are not going to change. For instance, if a person jumps off a building, they are going to fall to the lowest level possible because the Law of Gravity will dictate that it happens. This will always occur UNLESS there is an intervention of the Natural Realm that is superior to our physical one.
I have heard the testimony of children who in some natural disaster have said that “an angel caught them” and prevented the fall. Although it is true that God has set the Laws of Nature into operation, it is also true that He is able to over-rule them when He chooses to do so.
Normally however, if we choose to do a thing which we know is wrong or refuse to do the right things, we get paid the benefits due the actions into which we chose to employ ourselves.
God has also said that, “The wages of sin is death; BUT the gift of God is eternal life.” (Romans 3:23) God can over-rule Laws set in operation BUT it requires us to call upon Him and to request that He intervene in our lives. God wants us to invite Him, to request of Him and that is because He has respect for us. God is on our side and He is all for us succeeding in the living of our lives.
Do you want God to be active in your life? Do you want Him to guide you on the journey and then when you die give to you a place in the space of eternity that is a delight to you forever? Then, if so, you must answer “Yes” to the questions, “Will you ask Jesus to come into your life and to lay on you the forgiveness of your sin?” “Do you believe that He is alive and has risen from the dead?” (Romans 10: 9 and 10.)
If you cannot truly answer “yes” then you have still another option, and that is to request of God that He give to you the ability to believe it and the ability to answer “yes.” He responds to invitation positively, every time. (II Cor. 8:12)
Smoking cigarettes is something God does not want me to do. He softly let me know that but I did not want to quit smoking cigarettes. I struggled with my choice. Finally I told God, “I don’t have the want to even to want to stop smoking. Please give the ‘want to’.” He did, and with self discipline and decision, I did quit smoking the cigarettes. (Proverbs 21:2)
“God is not willing that any should perish but that all should come to the knowledge of eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” God is not willing, but God does not always get His way in the lives of mankind. If you or I do not perish then it is because we have said “Yes” to the invitation of eternal life offered by God through Jesus Christ. We must individually decide. We must personally commit. We must agree with God! (I Peter 3:9)
Neither you nor I have any chance of not answering a question. You will answer “Yes” or “No.” Don’t be deceived, if you do not verbalize your answer, you will answer by your actions.
There is no way to avoid a decision when the question has been asked.