In his book, "Before You Say I Do", Francis Yaw Boamah observes that faith is the foundation of all relationships. Concerning relationships, he says of faith: "It is the ability to see the potential of the relationship to blossom, right from the beginning."
This is true; it will take faith and trust for a relationship to start and blossom, whether the relationship is founded on right motives or not. It will take faith for the man to make the initial approach of proposing to a lady, and this same faith will be needed by the lady to respond in the affirmative.
The attitude of being certain that he or she is the right person even though you have not seen all of his or her weaknesses and strengths is what faith produces. You are sure that he or she will say yes and that the relationship will work.
If you want to know everything about someone before you enter into a relationship with that person, you will remain celibate the rest of your life. Even you do not know everything about yourself. The decision to enter into a relationship with someone, therefore, is a step of faith since you will not know everything about the person. But how do you take this step of faith?
First of all, you take this step of faith by identifying yourself with God. As you learn to trust in God, you'll acquire a level of faith that is unshakable. As you submit every area of your life to God's control, He'll shed more light on the areas in which you need direction.
Secondly, you need to make friends with people of different backgrounds. Involve yourself in activities that will expose you to new friends and build your confidence level. If you are the introvert type, you will need to improve upon your social skills. There is a high possibility that the person you'll marry will be from amongst your friends.
Thirdly, learn a lot about the opposite sex. It is important to know how to deal with the opposite sex. A man is totally different from woman; God created them uniquely. How much you know and understand how the opposite sex behaves will contribute to the success of your love life.
Finally, develop your skills by learning a trade or going to school. You need to be financially stable in order to boost your confidence of winning the heart of your loved one. No one would want to commit to a relationship with no future of financial stability.
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