TRYING TO FIT IN
This is a phenomenon that seems to affect people of all ages. Every social being has an innate desire to be accepted in any group one finds him/herself in. Young people especially love it when they feel part of the group they associate themselves with. No one likes to feel isolated or considered as ‘odd’ or ‘weird’ in a group. Thus most people would go any length to insure their place in a group.
But we should be careful of how we do this. Some people resort to backbiting and fabricated gossip in order to get noticed in their clique. This is not healthy since it breeds resentment within in the group and the offended party also plans on how to fight back. This leads to constant bickering within a group.
Before you decide to be part of any group or clique, you should first know yourself. You should discover yourself thoroughly to know who you are. The group you find yourself in should not define you; you should define yourself by who you are and what you stand for. If you are someone passionate about books or discovery of new things, you have no business joining a cheerleading squad or a choreography team because you would not shine there. Some say it is better to be a big fish in a small pond than be a small fish in a big pond but I would say it is best in the pond just right for you. Know what you can do best and what you stand for and befriend people with similar ambitions and values.
It does not pay to be in a group where you are despised for how you look, how you dress, how you speak or what you value. It is best to be among people who appreciate you for who you are and what you stand for. You should be around people who encourage you to grow in the Lord and to progress in whatever you do. They should be honest enough to offer constructive criticisms whenever necessary. They should be friends enough to stick with you through the ups and downs of life.
Bad company the Holy Bible says corrupts good morals so do not desire to be part of a group because they are infamously popular. It is better to be part of an unpopular group who stands for what is right because although you may not know, you are respected by others who would not openly admit it than to be part of very loud popular group who are referred to with many unpleasant names. When you contribute meaningfully to any group you find yourself in, you will be accorded your rightful honored and respected place within the group. There will no need then to struggle to fit in because you know your place.
In life, some people are meant to be in the spotlight whiles others are meant to be at the back stage, urging others on. Wherever you find yourself, be content with God has given you and patiently wait on Him to lift you up to where he has designed for you but you do not push yourself up there because when you do, you will fall before you can even get the chance to enjoy the glory you have worked so hard to get.
Whatever group you find yourself in, be proud of yourself and the group. Show the world true brotherly love, forgiveness, humility, friendship and everything that shows what it means to be there for someone at all times. Pray for your group be it the choir, choreography group, cheerleading squad, basketball group, bible studies group, whatever it is, pray for oneness and for progress. Remember, whatever two or more people decide on will definitely be established. Let’s show the world how real the love of Jesus is and let’s start showing it today.
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I know what it is like to be "odd" AND "weird". Most of my life, that was me.
I thought you spoke the truth about peer pressure to perform. You are right when you said the only one you have to answer to is God and the one that is in the mirror.
good picture. Thanks for the example sorely needed.