Some people will take your kindness towards them as being weak or stupid and think that gives them opportunity to take advantage of you. Being able to discern such deceit in negative persons will help one avoid the traps that are set to make you fall!
People have this misconception that being a Christian makes you a doormat and easy target for one to manipulate to their advantage. Jesus said be wise as a serpent but harmless as a dove. You don't have to render evil for evil but graciously let the unsavory types know you WILL NOT be used for their benefit. AMEN!
In the sowing and reaping principle of life they who fail to appreciate the love and care extended to them are doomed to reap the bitter harvest of suffering in bad relationships to those who would mistreat and use them. There's always a cost to pay either good or bad based on how you treat people.
Never burn your bridges that carried you across for you may have to come back that way again. Make right with people you had a falling out with for they may hold the key or blessing that can deliver you from your troubles
There are those who live with regrets for ending a relationship with someone by refusing to be reconciled particularly with ones they had benefited much from. Situations arrive when you may need that person who you rejected but that person may no longer want to be involved leaving you at a lost.
Some people don't know the ugliness that's in them until they receive the same from someone. Hopefully it becomes a wakeup call for them to change their negative ways and become better persons in the process!
One does not have to be a victim of what is sometimes called a generational curse.Whether a family has been afflicted with various addictions such as alcoholism, drugs, sexual promiscuity or criminal activity that is passed down to succeeding generations doesn't have to be the fate on who's living now. With the help of God's power and deliverance one can say I refuse to be like others in the family.
So many people settle for being whatever is the dominant dysfunctional problem running a family as though its the only way to live.For one who decides on breaking from such a stronghold has to have the mental toughness and desire to change from such a lifestyle to a positive uplifting one. When prayer is made to God for deliverance He will provide someone to lead the one who wants out to a better life
If,as often stated that life is what you make of it then what kind of life would it be for the one who is selfish, mean-spirited and negative? Doubtful that such a life can be joyful and happy. The person who sets a life being loving, caring with a positive outlook on life will have a fulfilling and blessed life. The contrasts of these lifestyles reflects the Biblical truth of sowing and reaping!
Why is it so hard for some people to receive Love when extended to them? No matter if one has lived an unhappy life full of hurts and disappointments, God who sees the heart knows how to send someone a person who would love them unconditionally and provide the means where they can experience a positive uplifting change they never knew before.
They must release the fears and insecurities of the past! Also having lived under such extenuating circumstances is NOT the only way to live.When a better alternative is presented by those who God sends they must embrace it and will begin to see the difference it brings in their life.
All the negativity they been raised up on would start to fall away when being in the presence of positive-thinking persons who will help them see life in a better perspective.There must be time and patience for the hurt person to heal but some would recover faster if they don't wallow in the despair of their problems.
Some take it like a perverse sense of comfort not to do any better but remain in that state. They must be willing to break from that stronghold they made for themselves if deliverance is to be accomplished. They need much prayer and encouragement to know they don't have to stay in a quandary but be an overcomer in the process.
It would be wise if people stop blaming others for their wrongs or misfortunes they bring on themselves in life. They can never experience the goodness and grace of God's love staying in the negative mindset. Galatians 6:5 and 1st Peter 2:20 speaks of taking responsibilty for one's own mishaps instead of passing the buck on someone else. We must look in the mirror(God's word) and see who is the real problem!
To paraphase a line from the Tyler Perry film,"A Family That Preys", You can't be happy at the expense of making others miseable. People who are selfish and self-willed can't expect good to come their way being nasty and contentious particularly with those who has been good to them. The same people you stepped on in trying to get what you want are the same ones who will be there to help after you messed up.