Marriage and family were meant to be for a lifetime. More so, they were designed by God Himself to be enjoyed, to bring wholeness and fulfillment and not to be endured. However, with so many marriages falling apart, one wonders where the problem lies.
With so much dysfunction in our homes, the societal decay keeps worsening. This anomaly is majorly so because men, husbands, and fathers have failed in their role of being the priest, the king and the prophet of the home.
It has never been an easy task heading a family. The situation becomes particularly more disturbing since men have abandoned the principles laid down by the Originator of marriage and clung to fads and theories that are meant to destroy and not build up our homes.
With mounting pressures only life in Jesus will help us not to sag beneath. However we numb ourselves with sex, alcohol, drugs, pornography and all kinds of trash little wonder we produce dysfunctional kids who end up locked up in a jail cell because they were a menace to the society, or strung out on narcotics (not to mention the billions spent in an attempt to rehabilitate them), or serial killers, rapists, child molesters, (who unfortunately leave a lot of permanent and ugly scars on innocent minors) or battling with inordinate affections.
The unfortunate thing is this pattern is being passed down to the next generation. A lot of would-be successful fathers fail woefully in life only because they were the product of a broken home, and/or abuse of all kinds. They never have a real man in their lives to model what a real man should look like. A real man I dare to say is a man who is in touch with his Maker. No one knows a product better than the manufacturer. And because God is the one who created with us, He gave us a manual for living – the Bible. The defects we see in our lives can only be corrected as we consult the manual, and by the extension, the Manufacturer. By living according to the manual, we live as we were meant to – as kings, priests and prophets.
The kid in this king finds himself fighting a battle no one has prepared him beforehand on how to face. He suddenly realizes there are giants all over the place. Because the father didn't confront the giant in his time, the son is now faced with the same giant.
We need men who would kill their giants so it would inspire the up coming generation on how to deal with their own giants. It would be an easy kill to do what someone has done before you.
The seeds of divorce must be killed before it rears its ugly head. Fathers must model what a real man should be and stop battering mama. He must desist from the nebulous act of climbing his daughter's bed at 2 O'clock in the morning to violate her. The giant of drunkenness must not be allowed to steal the joy in our homes. We are setting an example that should it be followed by our successors, will set the stage for a fall.
For the next generation of men (and indeed women too) let me assert my firm belief that just because your father didn't kill the giant that is now threatening your very life doesn't mean you're coming down. What this means is that the battle would be tougher. You can still win this battle. Every kind of addiction that is fighting you need not be your terminator. It may threaten to squeeze the very life out of you but with God on your side, daddy's giants can be destroyed.
But it has to be your firm resolve and desire, like David, to see the giant coming down.
Are there giants confronting you right now? Daddy's giant need not be your own giant. Caleb and Joshua succeeded partly because they saw the giants in the land as nothing more than loaves of bread. You can decide to end the fight. You can decide to bring closure to the circle that has been hovering over the entire family like a vampire waiting to suck your life blood.
I don't know about you but I am equipped, challenged and determined too to kill any giant standing on my way to progress. Not only that, I am equally ready to behead any of daddy's giants with the help of God. I’m not doing this just for my survival, but also for future generation as well.
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